(Closed) Are you using ushers? Are they really needed?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you don’t see the need, then go without them. I am having two hostesses to seat guests and pass out programs and one of my brothers (live sin AK and can’t come for fittings or the rehearsal) and one FI’s cousin to escort our mothers in.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it’s necessary either, and we’re not having them.  People are perfectly capable of seating themselves.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are having three, but since the ceremony is in the back of the gardens and kind of hard to find they are kind of needed. That and they will be responsible for handing out the live butterflies for release to some of the guests. And bubbles to the others…oh and helping pass out the champagne for the toast.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Maybe have one person there to assist any elderly people, but if you don’t want ushers, i don’t think they are necessary. I don’t know how anybody did anything on our wedding day, i didn’t plan ANY OF IT and people miraculously found their chairs. haha

 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hey date twin!

Our groomsmen are serving as ushers while everyone is coming in.  The Best Man will hang out with my Fiance, but the rest of the guys can help seat people.  Some churches require you to have ushers (and I had a couple of friends who’s church wouldn’t let the groomsmen double as ushers and they had to ask some other friends to help last minute).  I’d check with your church just to make sure!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

We had the best man stand at the alter with my husband and all the other groomsmen did the ushering duties.  Once we were ready to begin the ceremony the groomsmen walked up to the alter and took their places (except for my bro who escorted my mom and then took his place at the alter).

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’ll be using our groomsmen as ushers. Don’t really see a need to ask more people to help.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have three younger brothers (age 12 twins, one 20 year old) that we really wanted to include in the wedding, so we’re having them be ushers.  My FI’s two brothers are groomsmen, so it was the only way we could really fit my brothers in.  It’s not like we necessarily need them to help seat people, but I think the three of them will be really good at greeting guests and making a good “first impression.” 

This was a good question, something I’ve been wondering/worrying about, so thanks for posting!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Date triplets!  We’re having ushers just to make sure that all of our families get seated up front, to hand out the programs, and to make sure people know which side is the bride’s and which side is the groom’s.  You can use signs to tell people bride side vs groom side (if it even matters to you), and people are perfectly capable of picking up their own programs, so if you really don’t have anyone you want, and none of it seems that crucial to you, then just skip it and everything will work out.

That said, seating family in the right place is super important to some people.  At my cousin’s wedding, the ushers were the groomsmen who were already tipsy and didn’t care, so they told my parents (bride’s aunt and uncle) there was no special seating for family, and the couple wasn’t doing the bride’s side/groom’s side thing, and pointed them towards an empty seat halfway back on the grooms side.  Well, the couple was doing the bride’s side/groom’s side thing, and the family was supposed to be seated up front.  My mom’s parents (bride’s grandparents) were _super_ mad at my mom and dad because they thought my parents were somehow snubbing them by sitting in the back on the wrong side!  Definately a situation that could’ve been avoided by helpful ushers.

[edit] Re: the guestbook question.  Def not doing it.  I always thought it seemed like work rather than something anybody really wants to do.  DJ will make an announcement, maybe 2, and anybody who doesn’t get to it doesn’t get to it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My Mother-In-Law got the mic for a second and asked the guests to sign the guestbook that she held up and showed people, and they made their way over throughout the night. No need for an attendant for us. Another wedding i went to recently  had a nice table all set up in the middle of cocktail hour, so it was obvious what they wanted guests to do. Lots of extra sharpies!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we didn’t have ushers. personally i hate having to walk with someone i don’t know to my seat, the only time i liked it was when my husband was an usher. and our wedding was casual and very tiny, so it was fine without them. (although people assumed our parents were going to sit in the first row so nobody sat there and it kind of looked weird, b/c in jewish weddings they stand next to the chuppah for the ceremony, and an usher would have prevented that).

we didn’t have anyone stand by the guestbook either. we had it next to our card box. i’ve been to weddings where the moh or best man is in charge of making sure people sign it, and if it’s not getting signed they’ll either take it around or tell people to go to it.

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