Post # 1
We’ve received quite a few gifts in the mail for the wedding and I had my shower a week and a half ago and we’ve got all the gifts piled up in a spare room. We still have two months to go, too. I’m thinking of putting all the gifts away and starting to use them. Just wondering what everyone else is doing?
I searched for old posts and the ones I found are over a year old and all seem about split and reference the reason not to use gifts is in case the marriage doesn’t happen for whatever reason. Just want an updated opinion from the hive! 🙂
Post # 3
Yes. My mom already got us two items off our registry and asked us to use them. I don’t see why it’s a big deal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
I haven’t had my shower yet, but my fiance’s aunt sent us a really nice set of knives off of our registry and we opened and used them right away! I think I’ll do the same with the other gifts.
Post # 5
Yup, we started using things right away. No real reason not to!
Post # 6
Yes! We started using our new flatware and the Kuerig coffee maker 🙂 People have already started asking if we’ve used their item yet, and the shower was only last week!
I don’t see a problem with it!
Post # 7
Most definitely 🙂
The ‘tradition’ was that you don’t use things until after the wedding in the event that the wedding didn’t occur you could return them to the gift giver.
We’ve been using things as they arrived and the only regret I have is that Future Mother-In-Law bought us a TON of utensils and spatula type things off registry which I got at my shower… I would have kept the packaging and not used some of the other similar items we got.
Now I can’t return them and Future Mother-In-Law only shops on ‘the QVC’ as she puts it, so not so easy to return 🙂
Post # 8
We didn’t use our gifts ahead of time, but that is mainly because I was too busy to unpack the gifts, run them in the dish washer and reorganize my kitchen to make room for the new stuff. I still haven’t done it…
I don’t see anything wrong with using them ahead of time though.
Post # 9
I plan on it. Most of the stuff we have registered for is stuff we need to replace, but have been holding off on doing so unless necessary. We have also registered for a desk, chair and stuff like that so it woud be hard to not use them before the wedding. I’ve actually been using the first part of our wedding gift from my parents for almost a year now.
Post # 10
We are although I did make a joke saying.. I think that the package says.. Don’t open until….This was funny, but did not go over well with Fiance who LOVES his new bath towels!!!
Post # 11
I felt weird about it – but we did (for some of them – some I just wanted to wait). The only reason not to use them is in case the wedding doesn’t go through and you’d need to return them…
Post # 12
Right now it’s all piling up in the kitchen, so we’re going to have to unpack it and start using it before the boxes rise up in revolt and stake their claim to the land of New Corrugation smack in the middle of the house.
Post # 13
I’m not going to use anything before the wedding. I left most of my shower gifts at my parent’s house. We’ll be moving sometime after the wedding (within 6 months, hopefully sooner) and I’m planning on saving most of it for the new place. I’m sure there will be a few things we use at our current place though, but not until wedding!
Post # 14
I didn’t. I just didn’t want to jinx anything. I didn’t even unwrap them! (no shower) I did however send my thank you notes right away thanks to the packaging insert.
Post # 15
not to be dour, but seriously, even if the wedding isn’t “called off,” what if one of you dies before it occurs? The gifts really ought to be returned in that case.
just in case…that’s another reason the gifts shouldn’t be used.
Post # 16
yes. But only a few things because most of our gifts are on our wish registry (www.uponourstar.com) because we are remodeling our house- so the few things we received from other people, I have just put away/into the mix.
Is that taboo? I had no idea!