(Closed) Are you waiting on the edge? Thinking EVERY moment could be THAT moment? :)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Newbee

@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers:  OMG yes! It was my birthday recently and my SO kept dropping hints about ‘the gift’ alllllll the time – things like “It’s something I want you to have for a long time” and “It’s your 25th so I wanted something really special for you” and “It’s something we’ve been talking about a lot lately”. In my crazy waiting mind that TOTALLY spelled ring.

So, on my birthday we were getting ready for a night out and he told me to sit down, close my eyes and hold out my hand. I was so nervous I felt like I was about to vomit! Then I felt this heavy, cold and slightly damp bowl in my hands and opened my eyes to find he’d bought me a BONSAI TREE. So I was just slightly off haha!

I have to admit I laughed pretty hard thinking about all the nervous excitement and anxiety I’d put myself through XD

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

As someone who was just going through the same thing just months before (FI and I have been together 3 1/2 years and he proposed at the end of January), I say savor it!!!

 

It is so weird now that the anticipation is gone.  I was in that state for over a year.  Although now the wedding planning is exciting (and stressful), it does sort of feel like something is off without that anticipation.

<3

Post # 5
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My SO has had the e-ring hidden in our house since February so I pretty much live my life assuming that every minute is going to be the moment he asks.  A couple weeks after he got the ring, it had it hidden in our home office, not very well at all and I found it.  It took all my energy not to look at it and put it on.  When he got home from work that evening, I told him I had found the ring and asked him to hide it somewhere else.  Well a couple hours later we’re sitting on the couch watching a movie and he pulls out the ring box and starts saying how he can’t wait to spend the rest of his life with me etc. and he told me to open it.  When I did there was nothing in it.  He started laughing so hard, and saying how he’d never propose like that and I should know better.  Honestly I could have killed him, and I threw the box back at him.  So now he has the ring hidden somewhere without the box and keeps the box sitting on the desk of our home office, so I get to see an empty box everyday.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh, I can relate, hehe!

I told my Boyfriend or Best Friend that I don’t want him to do it on a special occassion (eg. holiday, birthday), but his twin brother got engaged on Valentine’s Day and the next day my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were going out for our V-Day dinner. Well he comes home from work before dinner and says “Get dressed up, k?” Which was weird because I was going to anyway, and always dress up when we go out for things like that anyway, so I was wondering why he was making a big deal of it.

So we get to the restaurant and the maitre’d was extra attentive when we checked in, so I was like “Hmm.” Then at dinner my Boyfriend or Best Friend was smiling and smiling. Like smiling as if something was going to happen. Huge smiling. And he was extra talkative and sweet throughout dinner. Hmm. Then he insisted on us getting dessert, which he never ever does. He tells me to order whatever I want and gets up and says he’s going to the bathroom. I’m thinking he’s going to go tell the staff to put the ring in the dessetr or something, right? So dessert comes and now I’M all super smiley…But trying not to show it. Good luck, lol!

….Dessert ends and nothing. Okay, no problem, he’s probably going to take me somewhere after dinner, right? Nope, right back home by 8:00.

It was SUCH a buzzkill! Needless to say I was in a VERY sour mood after that, lol. Poor Boyfriend or Best Friend.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

@lilmissmintybee:  LOL!!! I broke out laughing when you found out he got you A TREE. I don’t know how I would be able to fake gratitude for it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Oh. my. goodness.  I’m the type who is EXTREMELY impatient, and even though I planned on waiting till I was out of college to get married, when my now-FH started asking questions about proposing to me, I flipped out (on the inside) and started looking up wedding stuff on Pinterest after rage-quitting because I was so tired of the shabby chic kack. Looking up dresses, decor ideas, rings, everything.  This lasted for a few weeks, then my FH graduated from the police academy.  That night, nothing.  The next night at the graduation party, nothing, but I walked in on a conversation with his parents and older brother… the subject got changed pretty quickly.  So I finally asked him when he was planning on proposing, he told me the 4th of July. That satisfied me, and left me COMPLETELY UNAWARE of his plans for the next night… 

 

He’s sneaky, and it’s a very good thing he uses his skillz for good…

Post # 9
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4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No, I know it isn’t coming quite yet. But when his job situation is pinned down, I’ll go crazy

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers:  I think this site is making me that way!! A few months ago I was totally on track for getting engaged in 2-3 years, fine with it! Now after being on here, my mind still says that, but I do find myself wondering if he has something planned. He doesnt haha.

I was blunty reminded the other day when his mom asked when we are getting married and I laughed and said ask ur son and then he told her i said i wanted to wait until I was done with school. and im like “shoot! I did say that” :/ well this was before I took a year off and got a full time job. Part time school means longer time until im done! grrr hahah

But we have just been in SUCH a good place and then being on here daily, its messing with my mind hehhe

Post # 11
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241 posts
Helper bee

i was engaged last month… But in so used to thinking that “this is gonna be the moment” and waiting that sometimes when Fiance texts me and ask where i am i think “ooohh does he have somethig planned??” Lol theres a waiting void in my crazy head

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Our church and then at The Garden Room for the reception

Unless he decides that he can’t wait, I’ll be good for about 2 more months. Then again, he might just do something to catch me off guard . He did say that wanted to do it when I wasn’t expecting and surprise me. SIGH lol.

I’m definitely not expecting it yet though; I was more jumpy when I wasn’t sure if we’d be able to get the ring or not, but now that I know it’s in progress I’m better than I was. Smile

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers:  I have had mini panic attacks about once a week since we went ring shopping. We went on a week long vacation with his family in Florida. Romantic scenery everywhere!

The other day he texted me “Don’t eat at work, I’m cooking dinner. Let me know when you leave.” He doesn’t cook. Ever. I got home and a glass of wine was on the table and my heart started beating so fast. Then we ate, and he went to bed. Really sweet that he cooked though! But no ring, haha!

My 25th birthday is next week but I know its not coming then either. I’m sure when we go out to my birthday dinner, it’ll be the same heart pounding as always though!

Jeez, when it really does happen, I imagine I will have a full blown heart attack and scream out OH MY GOD THIS IS IT! ITS HAPPENING!! YES! YES!

…I just hope our neighbors don’t hear that and think something else!.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Our church and then at The Garden Room for the reception

@lilmissmintybee:  A tree? That’s hilarious. Sorry it wasn’t what you were expecting. Good story though.

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissStruggles:  Haha, I didn’t eat it. It’s on my finger right now;)

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