(Closed) Are you waiting until you say ” I do? “

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Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@808bride: That is too funny! : ) I would have said the SAME THING!! : )

My DH and I waited and are so glad we did! It made that night so special! As odd as it may sound, it really does connect you two together!

One thing that’s neat for Christian couples vs. non Christian couples (or old fashioned, etc.) is that many of my friends who have gotten married that had lived together, didn’t wait for the I DO, etc. etc. felt like the “high/fun part” was over after their wedding.  For us, that was when the “high/fun part” started.  Cause then, we got to live our lives as one! : )

Keep strong brides! It is so worth it! : ) And, I second what @hisbunny said: Encourage your men, too! : )

Post # 18
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Honey Beekeeper

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@Stacia2242: Thanks for the encouraging words. I completely agree!

Post # 19
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Newbee

Speaking of encouraging men… do you ladies have any good advice for that?  How to keep the man on track and dedicated?

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@megobobego: Sure! : )

First and foremost, I would say PRAY FOR YOUR BF/FI!! Pray for his purity! Pray for the role he will play in your marriage as the spiritual leader.  Pray for strength in your future husband.  And, let him know that you are praying for him! I don’t think there is anything more encouraging to a man then to know that his future wife is praying for him!

Tell him you are proud of him for being a strong man of God! In a world where 81% of people age 40 and younger have had sex before being married, staying pure is HARD! Everything in our world SCREAMS sex! Staying pure is definitely a challenge, especially for men! Tell your man that you are so proud of him for staying pure!

Send him scriptures. – Matthew 5:8 “Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God.”, 1 Corinthians 6:18, 20 “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body….You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”, Jeremiah 17:10 “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.” 

Thank him! For you future husband to keep his hands off your body till you are his wife takes self control and is a sign that he respects you and your body.  Thank him for respecting you.  Let him know that you feel loved and cared for when he wants to do things the right way with you.  Thank him for that!

I’m sure there are ways you can encourage him according to your own situation, these are just some ideas to help! : )

Good luck! : )

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re waiting!!! Fiance is a virgin, I’m not. I wish I was. Fiance just always knew he would wait. I thought I would when I was younger but….its too late now! I think it’s so special that he has waited his whole life for me!

Congratulations to all of the people that wait, I think it will definitely be worth it!

Post # 22
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Newbee

We are definitely waiting! We think it’s so rare these days to save sex for marriage and due to our religious beliefs it’s so significant and so respectful to yourselves and God. I just love that so many of you are waiting too. Makes me so happy!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Fiance to be & I have been together for over 5 years now, and we didn’t wait till marriage – though we did wait till it was right for us…However, I just wanted to say that I think it’s a beautiful thing that you are waiting and it will make the wedding and marriage that much more special.  Laughing

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Wow this is awesome! I am a Christian girl, but did things a bit backwards! lol I envy you ladies!

But I wanted to congratulate you all! What will power and faith this has taken each of you and your FI’s!

Blessings to you and your marriage!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance and I didn’t wait, but we are abstinent until our wedding day now. Oddly enough, due to some very serious finanical situations (I lost my job and needed to move out of my apartment), we ended up moving in together. I was living in Manhattan and you just can’t get an apartment in Manhattan if you don’t have a job. But we aren’t having sex. It’s definitely tough, and we’re probably not as “hands-off” as we’d be if we were living apart, but no actual sex or oral sex or anything. Part of me is glad we didn’t wait, because I’m not nervous or concerned about “compatibility” but on the other hand, I like that we’re waiting now because it means that I have something to look forward to after the wedding!

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re waiting.

Not completely hands off either, but I’m so glad he has the self-control and the heart for God to wait. I know it’s tough for him and I’m doing my best to help him, it’s frustrating for me as well, but I know it’s probably tougher for him.

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are most certainly waiting!!    Part of the reason we’re having an earlier ceremony/reception is so that we can head to our wedding night suite and really enjoy the wedding night alone together.  

Post # 28
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Waiting! I have had sex and he hasn’t…long story…but I am so glad to finally be with someone who wants to wait and who encourages me in what we know is God’s plan.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

We’re playing the waiting game too! When we set the date, I said, “Oh thank God! I finally have an expiration date for my virginity!”

We live together as well, since the apartment that we wanted was finished ahead of schedule. It’s nice to be able to cuddle at night, but really frustrating that that’s all it is.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Wow , I am really surprised by how many people are waiting…. My Fiance lost his V card at a very young age and I too lost mine earlier than I should have with someone I didn’t love. Me and Fiance haven’t waited either… but I am very sincere about sex… I make my Fiance remember how many times we have had sex before I will let him have me in that time and moment…. it seems silly and gets outragious when your at the number we have reached… but to me if he cares enough about me he will remember the number of how many times he has deserved myself… I am very proud of all the couples out there who have waited… thats very very special and you wont have any regrets.

Post # 31
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@chicyetfrugal:We are waiting! We have been dating almost two years, but I know it is well worth the wait…can’t wait to have that special moment wiht him!  I am surprised with how many others have waited…you just don’t hear about that much anymore! I’m proud of you all!

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