(Closed) Are you waiting until you say ” I do? “

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Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitly waiting, one thing we have absolutely agreed on.

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@egutierrez: That made me giggle a little. That would be a little unsettling.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We’re waiting…have been dating since 12/13/08 and we can’t wait for 11/11/11!!! 

Post # 34
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are waiting until the big day! Sometimes life doesnt work out the way we ‘thought it would’. Its important to trust His plans and timing. We have been together for 4 yrs, and after patience, cancer, and the miracles God has done in our lives we are totally ready. I CANT WAIT!!!!

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My Fiance and I are waiting until the day we say our vows (or that night) I am not a virgin  but he is.  It was very important to us both when we made this promise when we first started dating. I cant wait to share this special moment with him…. but I know it will mean more if I do wait.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sure are!  And I know it willbe worth the wait. 

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we are waiting also! it is such an encouragement to see so many people on here posting that they are waiting. i feel like we are the only ones sometimes 🙁

may 21st better be a fast 101 days!!!!!!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I find it really shocking how many people are waiting!  I thought that was a totally outdated thing.  Props to you, I guess.

I find waiting to be rather silly, to be honest.  Sex is a very integral part of your relationship with your partner, and I can’t imagine being OK with marrying someone whom I did not know in every possible way–physically, mentally, etc.  I can’t imagine the stress of the wedding night, either–sex can be very painful for a lot of women on their first time.  Imagine the heartbreak if that moment doesn’t go as planned, and the stress and the pain prevent you from being able to have sex on your wedding night.  

Of course, I’m also an advocate of living with your partner beforehand too.   How else can you know if you are compatable together?  

And really, what does marriage mean, ulitmately?  It’s just a piece of paper.  Far more important is the relationship you have with your partner, which, I assume, you already had before you signed the contract.

I believe a couple should wait until they are in love and in a serious, comitted relationship.  As we all know based off divorce rates, being married does not necessarily mean two people will be in love and committed forever.  In the end, even if one waits for marriage, a person could have multiple sexual partners if they have been divorced and remarried several times.

Again, just my opinion.  Good luck to all of you waiting!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

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@Oribel013690: I agree with everything you said. But if it’s important to someone, then props to them for sticking to that. For me, though? hahah….yeah…no.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Oribel013690: I think to Christians marriage just isn’t a piece of paper or a legal contract. It’s a spiritual covenant. So I know some people basically commit to each other and move in together and so the “marriage” part isn’t as important, just the commitment. But I think that for Christians its kind of different.

Also, I think most people who wait realize that the first time won’t be perfect. It’s not perfect the first time if its your wedding night or not.

And yeah, ideally you’d be with your “one and only” but I realize if my husband dies and I remarry, I’ll have sex again. But that doesn’t mean I’m not glad I waited for him! 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We did not wait and I don’t regret it at all, but I think it’s a personal decision for each couple and I completely respect anyone who decides to wait until marriage.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we didnt wait.. but are waiting now! haha. we recently became christians and are wanting to do all things to glorify God and that would include making sacrafices to do the right thing. Let me tell you thoughh.. wooo its so hard.. we live together and we have atleast 6 more months to go! no slip ups and we are holding up strong. what helps is when you dont concetrate on how long you have to go or how long its been just take it day by day and pray about it. cant wait!

Post # 43
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Worker bee

This is a very interesting issue. My fiance and I actually did not wait until marriage. I feel every situation is different. Christians in my opinion are quite divided on this issue. Some feel sex is fine once honest love and commitment exists. Some feel sex is perfectly fine if you are engaged. You have those who say sex is only acceptable in the context of legal marriage. It is very much a complicated issue.

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We waited and it was so worth it.

I know that some days it can be hard…but hang in there!

I can’t imagine sharing a bond like that with anyone but my husband. I for sure got emotional that first night, it’s more than just a physical thing. 

Worth the wait!

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We didn’t but then again we’ve been courting since we were 15, so we’ve both only slept with each other which I do like!!

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Oribel013690:  I 100% agree with you.  Couldn’t have said it better myself.

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