Post # 1
I went home this past weekend where we are having the wedding ( 4 hours from my house) to do my food tasting and see my family and bring down some decor. Out of the blue both my father and my mother, who by the way are divorced and live in separate homes and never speak to each other anymore, both said to me ” So you are going to wear a veil right?” I said, that I wasn’t planning to and that my dress already was more traditional than I thought I was going to go and that I just never imagined wearing a veil, way to old fashioned for me. But now both my parents are having being all pissy and upset with me because I guess they imaged that I was going to wear one. My Dad even thought I was going to wear a blusher over my face so he could pick t up and kiss me and all that. My Dad has a very old fashioned view of weddings and has NO IDEA how they have changed over the years. Also, he is a bit of a drama queen and likes when he has attention on him and I think this is why he wanted me to do the blusher.
So now I am wondering if I should wear a small veil just in the back of my hair to make them happy. They also wanted me to wear one (and my sister chimed in to agree with them on this too ) because I have a tattoo on my back and they want me to hide it. I don’t want to hide it but they think it is ugly and that I should conceal it in some way. I already purchased my hairpiece for the day and had my trial and I wasn’t planning to have a veil so I am not sure how it would work into the hairstyle my artist already did.
I attached some photos below to give you an idea of what my dress looks like and what my hair will look like on the day.
Are your parents asking you to do things that you never imagined doing? Are you considering changing your plans to make them happy?
The back of my dress
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I never thought I would wear a veil either, but put one on “just for fun” when I picked up my dress when it came in… and I liked the look. Not enough to pay the $200 the veil at the bridal shop cost, but I did buy a $30 veil on Ebay. It made me feel more bridal and completed the look.
You might want to try one on just for you, to see what you think. Don’t destroy your outfit because of what your parents want and don’t feel the need to cover up your tattoo.
And don’t forget, most brides take it out after the ceremony or the first few dances, so you don’t have to wear it all night.
Post # 4
I am not. But if I had her dress and wedding, then I totally would!
Post # 5
I am trying to be open to the idea to see if I truly would or wouldn’t like it. But my issue is that I already have a hairpiece. I would want to wear both I don’t want it to look too cluttered or over the top.
Maybe one like this:
Post # 6
Here is an Etsy photo where the bride wore a white hairpiece and a veil over. I think your feather hairpiece would still work.
But you just have to try it on with a veil and see what you think/feel!
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Do what you want. I had a veil for my first wedding. It was beauitful, but it was also a pain in the butt even though I only wore it for the ceremony. This time around, I knew I didn’t want one and I have no regrets. I wore flowers in my hair and went along on my merry/marry way.
Post # 8
I orginally didn’t want to wear one but after some pressure from my mom I bought one. It really grew on me! Now I’m happy I bought one. I would say try some on & see how they make you feel 🙂
Post # 9
I didn’t want to either, but my mom and sister talked me into buying one in the moment when i found my dress. In the end I was glad I wore it. But I also switched to a birdcage for my reception, which was what i actually wanted.
Post # 10
yeah, I tried one on at David’s Bridal to see, but my hair is so thin that it wouldn’t stay in underneath my head unless I did some major bobby pins. So I wasn;t able to really get an idea of how I like it. My other issue is that we are getting our hair and makeup done at the hotel and then getting my dress on at the ceremony site. I don’t know if my makeup artist will charge extra if she has to drive to do the veil at the site because I figured I wouldn’t want to get it on until the dress is on. Right?
Post # 11
While your parents shouldn’t ask you to cover up something thats part of you, you should also be willing to compromise with something they want. Find a simple cheap veil to wear just for the ceremony, you can even leave it out of pics.
Post # 12
I didn’t plan to wear a veil. My Darling Husband even encouraged me NOT to wear one. But then I decided to order an inexpensive one and try it on. It’s simple and waist length and attaches only by a hair comb. (I added a couple decorative hair pins, but I didn’t NEED to.) I chose a veil that was “accordian folded” instead of gathered, so it really was pretty sheer. (one fold, the length of the hair comb) This is two layers – it’s a circle veil.
I really liked the end result, it was short enough that it didn’t bother me, and it just hung down my back. The only time it was in my way at all was when someone would hug me around the neck and slide their arm down my back – that tugged a bit.
Here’s a “getting ready” snapshot my dad took that shows off how sheer it is – that veil wouldn’t be hiding a tattoo!
This one shows the length
But I wore it because I liked the way it looked and made me feel. I only spent $35 on it, so if I had tried it on and discovered that it was a FAIL, I’d have been ok with leaving it at home. You should rock a look that makes you happy and confident. If you try on a veil and still think it’s not right, then skip it. But if you like the idea of wearing one, you can absolutely pull it off with that hairpiece.
And if you have a helpful friend or relative, you probably won’t need the hairstylist’s help to don – or remove – a veil that attaches simply.
Post # 13
See if you like it, but do NOT give in to pressure if you don’t want to wear it! I didn’t wear one, and I am pretty sure I’m just as married as anyone else, ha.
Post # 14
I don’t want to wear one either, just because I’m not a huge fan of where the tradition comes from. Also, it helps that my Fiance thinks they look silly. If you don’t have any real philosophical objections to it, you can always just try one on, and I would suggest doing that. If you like it, do it. If you don’t like it, then don’t. If you want to comprimise, you could always get a simple one and have it attached undeneath your hairdo.
Post # 15
@AdriannaJean: I am sort of the same way. I didn’t want to wear it because of where the tradition comes from.