(Closed) are you wearing your veil over your face or tucked under your hair?

posted 7 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
Member
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@blondebride2012: Traditionally, you wear it over your face when your father walks you down the aisle…he lifts it to give you a kiss, and then your new husband pushes it back before the kiss at the end. Many ladies these days have begun to wear it over their face for the walk down the aisle, and then have their dad push it back so they can see for the ceremony.

I’m wearing mine down my back, and considered not wearing one at all. But my Fiance saw me in a “practice” one ($8 from Hobby Lobby) and loved the look, so I’m doing it for him.

The veil over your face has all kinds of creeptastic patriarchal symbolism that is traditionally attached to it, which is one reason I’m not doing that part of the tradition. (Please note: for other ladies wearing a veil over your face means nothing more than “yay, I’m a bride!” Your mileage may vary. No judgement from this quarter on veiling or not veiling.) For me, my own symbolism is that I want to go into marriage “with my eyes open” and with clear vision.

And on a very practical note, we’re getting married outside in June and I’m a little afraid that I’ll feel kinda claustro with it over my face. 😉

Post # 5
Member
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@blondebride2012:  Awww! I think it is totally about whatever you feel comfortable with. If you like the idea of having a little private space for yourself, and that moment with you and your dad, go for it.

Post # 6
Member
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d actually LOVE to see some pictures from ladies who walked down the aisle with a blusher/veil over their face.  I’m having a hard time deciding, too!

Anyone want to share pics…?

Post # 7
Member
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can share a pic of how I’m wearing my blusher! Keep in mind I was just trying on all my stuff with my shoes so me veil is super wrinkled. I bascially just took it out of the bag and crammed it on my head hahaha.

*** Also disregard the look on my face. Mom caught me off guard with the camera.

Post # 8
Member
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just want to share this….the veil is worn over the face in many cultures and some of the symbolism is VERY different from what many people assume. And thus the traditions about wearing it, who lifts it, are very different.

For example, in Jewish weddings, traditionally the groom puts the veil on the bride before the ceremony, and is the one to lift it off her face AFTER the legal parts of the ceremony wrap up.  The reasons are not universally agreed upon but (as taken from Wikipedia) the big ones are: “Some say that as the groom places the veil over his bride, he makes an implicit promise to clothe and protect her. Finally, by covering her face, the groom recognizes that he his marrying the bride for her inner beauty; while looks will fade with time, his love will be everlasting. In some ultra-orthodox traditions the bride wears an opaque veil as she is escorted down the aisle to meet her groom. This shows her complete willingness to enter into the marriage and her absolute trust that she is marrying the right man. In Judaism, a wedding is not considered valid unless the bride willingly consents to it.” –I should point out here that even with all that, the veil is only a tradition, and not a religious requirement by any means.

I know in other cultures that it has completely different meaning, and that traditional American/Christian ceremonies have the father or groom lift the veil prior to the vows. 

Really, just picture how you want to look and feel on the day, and go with that. There are no rules set in stone, it is really just a tradition.

Post # 10
Member
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I will be wearing mine of over my face for no other reason than I love how it looks! Sorry my face is hidden in the picture, but we can still get an idea of how it looks.

From the back, once it’s pulled back.

Post # 11
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I wore mine over my face while walking into the church. My dad lifted it over my head and pushed it back, and the whole service was performed with it back…but I liked letting my dad push it back initially. So you can do your own variation of it all too! 

Post # 12
Member
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I wore mine in the back. I didn’t want it over my face. For me, it was an aesthetic decision.

Post # 13
Member
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bearlove:  Thanks for sharing the Jewish perspective! It’s always nice to learn about other traditions and interpretations.

@zippylef:  That is a crazy gorgeous photo!

Post # 15
Member
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m wearing the blusher over my face. Not nessesarily because of the traditional meaning (though I do like the idea), but I think it looks fabulous!!

 

Post # 16
Member
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m wearing mine all on my back, from below my bun.  My decision has nothing to do with aestetics or tradition/lack thereof – it’s simply that I tried it with my tiara, and it gets caught, so I don’t want to deal with that on the alter that day.

The topic ‘are you wearing your veil over your face or tucked under your hair?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors