(Closed) Are you worried about telling anyone?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel like I’m in the same position as you! I’m 23 Darling Husband is 33. My mom loves kids but she’s not a very nice person and doesn’t really like Darling Husband or any of my life choices for that matter (everyone else on both sides of the family love me and Darling Husband, think we’re great together and can’t wait for babies.) She will think I made a mistake too. I think you need to just foccus on everyone else’s excitment, and your own. Only you know what is good for your life.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel like I’m in the same position as you! I’m 23 Darling Husband is 33. My mom loves kids but she’s not a very nice person and doesn’t really like Darling Husband or any of my life choices for that matter (everyone else on both sides of the family love me and Darling Husband, think we’re great together and can’t wait for babies.) She will think I made a mistake too. I think you need to just foccus on everyone else’s excitment, and your own. Only you know what is good for your life.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sorry for double post =[

 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@apex:  I’m 22 too and I know that only my side of the family will be against it. Kalanis side, and his mom actually, have been giving us baby books for a while lol

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This is #3 for me, 1st for hubby. My first two children were due to irresponsible choices… but I would never change a thing. My parents took it very hard and tho they say they were not disappionted in me I can tell that they were, always supportive tho! Pretty sure I am feeling the same way about telling them now as I was when I was 18, single, and making minimum wage. (Mom has repeatedly said that we shouldn’t have any more, too much of a full plate.)

As for this one, we planned to have another child together and are excited! The timing hasn’t been perfect seeing as we have had one SIL miscarry and another deliver 16 weeks early just in the last month, it seems like it hass turned some people’s joy into fear. As an example, my FIL’s response was “Just make sure this one gets here safe, ok?!” *tears* Way to freak me out and add some stress! Jeez. Did I mention the friends that have been TTC for 5 years? Yep, they are “happy” for us but it has caused SO much heartache for them. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oops, sorry… double post!

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sounds like your dad has some serious issues of his own, and it’s sad that he’s roping you into them. Seriously, who tells their kids they hated being a parent??? I don’t care how old you are, that has got to suck. Of course, when I was younger and said I didn’t think I wanted to have kids, my dad told me I was being hugely selfish and that having kids was the best thing you could do with your life so…our parents don’t always think before they speak.

If he says something negative, you could say that you understand he had a bad time being a parent but that you and your Darling Husband are prepared and excited for parenthood, and that it makes you really uncomfortable and sad to be reminded how much he disliked being a parent. Hope your mom can help, too, maybe if you make sure she knows it really upsets you she’ll help.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not nervous to tell people but I AM nervous about DHs family finding out his parents are very abusive and I’m afraid their behavior will get worse if they knew I was pregnant. Darling Husband doesn’t even want to tell them when we are expecting its actually very sad but hey… We have a lot of friends who pretty much take the place of family 

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