(Closed) Are you worried guest will complain about your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think there’s a lot of people who just HAVE to complain about something. I wouldn’t let it get to you. For as many people who complain, there are 3 times as many people who are just happy and honored to be a part of your big day:) Do what makes you and Fiance happy and the happiness and joy will spread.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That is one of the reasons why I am determined to keep my guest list small.  We are inviting 50 ppl to our wedding.  With only 25 people to invite for each of us, we are limited to only our closest family members and verrry best friends.  Our guest list is made up of ppl who love us like crazy and just wanna be there to see us get married.  You can’t satisfy everyone, but I’m sure we are minimizing complaints by doing it this way.

SN:I watch 4 Weddings too and I saw that episode last night.  One of those brides had a $75,000 wedding budget!!!  She was the rudest.  But all 4 of the weddings had elements that I loved.   

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t watch that show because of all the complaining and cutting up of other people’s ideas and plans!

And I wasn’t worried about people complaining about my wedding because it was going to be a lot of fun….but they did have a reason to complain, sub par food….and I agree!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Let me put your mind at ease: Don’t worry, people will complain. No matter what you do. Not like “4 Weddings” vicious, but they will complain. Worrying about it is like worrying that your future children will blame you for everything–don’t worry, they will. 

Just do the best you can, and shrug it off. And you’ll probably be having so much fun on your big day, you won’t even notice. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not worried that guests will complain about our wedding because we’re only inviting people who love and care about us. If our family and friends want to complain then I will kindly point them towards the door. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

So what if they do?  Not everyone is going to like something, it’s just the way the world works.  I’m sure of the people you invited … you know if you’re going to have a complainer or two or more …..  I have an Uncle and Aunt and their kids and grandkids who are alllll surface no substance and pick apart everything.  They aren’t invited.   You should be excited for the things you’ve planned and spent time on, and remember it’s a celebration about you and your FI 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

If someone complains to me at my wedding I will give them my “are you f-ing kidding me?” look. So, no, I’m not worried.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I can actually look at the different aspects of my wedding and know which people will complain about.  Destination wedding on a Sunday – my goodness, how rude are we expecting everyone to drive several hours and spend money on a hotel.  Outdoor ceremony – it’ll either be too cold, too windy, too hot, too sunny or too buggy.  The lines at the open bar will be too long.  The reception site is a 5 minute uphill walk from the ceremony site, and while we’ll be driving grandparents and stuff, everyone else will bitch and moan.  I’m sure there are other things I haven’t considered yet, but I’m just not going to worry about it.  It’s our wedding, and my fiance and I are pretty psyched about everything.  If people want to come and celebrate with us, they’re welcome.  If not, their loss.

The one thing I’m telling people is, “Do not dare call me on the morning of my wedding to complain about the weather and ask if the ceremony will still be outside.  If it’s freezing or raining, we’ll be indoors and we’ll let you know.  Otherwise, bring a coat!”

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t know if I would call it complaining per se, but some will surely pick it apart. I will have people complain that the reception isn’t “up to par”, I will have people complain that I spent too much money. They can all leave if they don’t want to dance at our party. whatever. sorry about the free food.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@eliwhit: Sorry about the free food.  Hilarious.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Unfortunately I have one friend who I know will pick apart my wedding.  Our whole friendship she’s been very competitive and it really bothers me, but not enough to end the friendship I guess.  She was married last summer, and had all the traditional aspects of a wedding.  Mine on the other hand will be somewhat untraditional – a morning ceremony, followed by a brunch reception.  No first dance, no garter/bouquet toss, etc.  She’s already shown her disapproval of it, but I’ve always been one to go against the grain to some degree.  I’ve just come to accept she will be judging it the whole time and frankly, I do not care!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I worried about it a lot in advance, but when the day came I forgot about it completely.  Actually, I watched Four Weddings before my wedding and it made me so stressed I cried!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Mine already are complaining. Ok not all of them, but if I hear another comment about the day, time, and town my wedding is in I may lose it.  So far I’ve just been smiling and saying “I know it may be inconvient for you but we’d love for you to try to make it”.

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