(Closed) Are You Writing Personalized Vows?

• mrsalexander
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

We are doing a combo of our personal vows and the traditional vows!

• dmk90716
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2013

@TaurianDoll:  We specifically told our pastor that there was to be none of this new age frilly stuff (that’s what we call it).. LOL If you can remember a time where the Christian church was much more religion and much less “show,” that’s what we’d like. Quite honestly, he was relieved and happy to hear it. I’d really recommend that you sit down with your officiant and let them know. Sometimes, it’s the breath of fresh air they’d like to have.

 

• MrsWBS
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

nope.

• dmk90716
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2013

@TaurianDoll:  >>> i just want the focus to be on God, me, and my Fiance.<<<

That’s exactly what we want. So GO FOR IT!

• brighteyedgirl
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2012

We wrote our own vows. DH was hesitant at first, but he rocked them out. :] We still get comments about how special they were, and my ‘Aunt’ has requested that I write hers when her time comes (she’s been with my Uncle for over 25 years and they have 2 grown ‘kids’ together, but they’ve never taken the plunge).

• LadyBear
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

We wrote our own vows, but we wrote them together and then said them ping-pong style. (He said one line, I said the next, and so on.)

• Artificial-Sweetener
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

As much as I would like to write our own vows; my Fiance does not. This was actually our first wedding related fight. He pretty much said that he did not want to because he did not want to say the wrong thing. Seriously?!

 

As you can tell this is a touchy subject. If your Fiance is willing I would say go for it; it would make it so much more speacial 🙂

• Brideonabudgetlauren
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

My husband actually decided he wanted to write his own vows.  I found some online that I liked.  He read his to me at our rehearsal dinner and I started bawling.  They were so perfect!  I ended up trashing mine and rewriting them the morning of our wedding!  I was in full hair and makeup, veil and all, and I went and sat outside on the porch of my hotel and wrote my vows in a Walmart notepad. haha.  I’m so glad we wrote our own vows.

• zackmarriesamber
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

We are. We will do the traditional vows, but also exchange vows that are personal to us. I like the idea of having that peice be special and completely for the two of you. Though I’m not sure how I will get through it without crying!

• CarolF
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014

I want to take the traditional christian vows and fluff them up a bit. Maybe add a few phrases about what marriage and commitment means to each of us personally. So I guess I’ll call that blended vows! 🙂

• HeyKaraoke
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

I already have mine partially written so I just assumed we were doing our own. Then I mentioned it to Fiance kind of off-hand, like, “Oh, I’ve got my vows partially written now.” He was like, “Wait, we’re doing those ourselves?!”

He just figured we’d do the whole “repeat after the pastor” thing. I want it a bit more personal. But Fiance is very easygoing so two days later he said to me, “I’ve got things written for my vows, too!” I asked him what he wrote and he said, “I’m just writing little things here and there. Like how I feel when you do something sweet or how I feel in a particular moment with you. I’ll sort through them later and make something out of it for the actual vows.” Way to rise to the occasion, Fiance 🙂

• shaynapunim
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: February 2014

Absolutely!! Instead of exchanging gifts on holidays and birthdays, FH and I give each other love letters. His words always make me cry. I can’t wait to hear his vows!! 🙂

• StephieBee
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

Hells yes we did! Personalized vows all the way! We are both nerdy though, so it was much more appropriate for us to have vows that suited us and our lifestyle. We also aren’t religious, so I didn’t feel comfortable saying the normal vows, along with the other stuff that comes with a traditional church wedding. Our friend was our officiant, and wrote everything himself, also. It mimicked the same ideas, but in a way that was more tailored to us. 

• thatredheadedbride
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

We are.  It was actually my FI’s idea, too!  I’m honestly surprised he brought it up, but I’m very happy about it.  I’m tearing up thinking about what he might say.