(Closed) Are you writing your vows?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Are you writing your own wedding vows?
    Yes, we plan on it : (23 votes)
    55 %
    No : (12 votes)
    29 %
    We already got married and wrote our own vows : (1 votes)
    2 %
    We are doing a combination of personal and religious vows : (6 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’d be open to it, but Fiance was nervous about it and didn’t want to… so, we’ll likely go the ‘traditional’ route.  I’m kind of bummed about it, but it wasn’t a huge deal to me.  Plus, we’ll likely personalize the service – so it will still have an ‘us’ feel.

    Post # 4
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We both want to write our vows – we have discussed key words that are important to us and so we will both incorporate those key words!

    Post # 5
    2703 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i never really thought about writing my own vows. but when Fiance and I went to a wedding of a close friend this past summer, we were both touched at the meaning and sentiment of the personally written vows.


    Fiance was kind of against it (he doesn’t want to cry in public! lols such a man’s man). but we are planning on writing our own 🙂

    Post # 6
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My Fiance and I have written our own vows..apparently he wrote his and memorized them also. I wrote mine and printed them on some nice ivory cardstock and added some blue accents and some wedding bells =) That’s my something blue b/c I may be too nervouse to actually remember mine.

    Post # 8
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I always wanted to/expected to write our own vows.  I very much like to personalize everything & having the opportunity to say what is in my heart exactly and not just repeat stock phrases was a total no-brainer. 

    That being said, I think that there is something very romantic about the traditional “I do take you to be my lawfully wedded husband….” etc.  So I think either we will both say something and then do the traditional vows, or both write something and the officiant (who is also my mother ;-)) will say “the couple has asked me to read…” and then still say our vows.  That way we get to say how we really feel but also get to have the experience of just saying our traditional vows, like so many loving couples before us.

    Post # 9
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    My Fiance told me that he expects me to write my own vows when we got engaged, as he’s writing one for me.. So that was how I found out we are writing our own vows. lol

    Post # 10
    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We are reciting traditional vows (we had out choice of 3 versions) for the ceremony but also exchanging handwritten letters to be opened on our 1st anniversary.  We both wanted to say something personal but also wanted it to be done in a private setting.

    Post # 11
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    the vows themselves will be traditional but i blended catholic and baptist wording in there for us

    Post # 12
    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    what I loved about our service was that the only things we had to say was I do!

    Post # 13
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    no way! too much added pressure for me! plus i refuse to talk during the ceremony, other than say “i do,” so the rabbi will be saying the traditional vows for us.

    Post # 14
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I can’t wait to write my own vows! We’re having a very non-traditional non-religious ceremony – incorporating inspiration from the people in our lives who are models for us in our own relationship, combining traditions we love from all over the world, etc. We wanted to make our own promises to each other as vows, as a way of personalizing it and giving it more meaning than just something that has been repeated over and over!

    Post # 15
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    It was my baby’s idea to write our own vows, he said it right when we got engaged – how cute is that?! I love it. I am so excited!!

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