Post # 1
2 weeks before our wedding and my fiance has NOT gotten fitted for his tuexedo. Ridiculous, I know. I’ve been reminding him for days. He has had two off days this week and on the other days he doesn’t have to work until 2 p.m. Now, after he is done with class at 8 p.m. tonight he wants to blow off his meeting with our minister and go get fitted. What?!
Also he expects me to do everything concering everything. Like I said he’s been off 2 days this week. I have worked 40 hrs in 4 days. I have no clean underwear and I have asked him to wash. Has he done it? No. But he went with his mother to get his watch fixed. I’m stressed out to the max and he knows this but just keeps adding to the load.
Any advice on how to keep from losing my mind? I already have a daughter. I don’t need a 23 year old son too.
Post # 3
This guy sounds like he isn’t pulling his load, and you need to let him know how you feel! This type of behavior can result in resentment in the long term.
Ex: “I feel (angry/dissappointed/hurt/etc) that you didn’t do the laundry today.”
The last thing you need in your life is someone else to take care of! He needs to work with you if your marriage is going to work. Let him know how you feel!
Post # 4
My SO does some pretty ridiculous things too when it comes to procrastination, but he’s been like this since before we met so I figured that wouldn’t change. He’s 26 now and still does the same. I couldn’t tell from your post if you have talked about sharing the load, but if you haven’t then talk to him. Explain that this is an event for the both of you and you need to work as a team. Maybe he needs a list in order to follow through (it works for my SO). Sometimes though, you just have to lay back and let him do whatever it is he is going to do…and then chuckle when nothing goes the way he expected because he procrastinated. I never say “I told you so,” but my SO catches on that he can’t let everything fall on me. Good luck.