Are you/have you invited someone you REALLY dislike to your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: have you invited someone you dont like?
    yes, family members : (120 votes)
    36 %
    no-one : (70 votes)
    21 %
    yes, partners of guests : (94 votes)
    29 %
    had my wedding and wished I hadnt invited someone : (12 votes)
    4 %
    Had my wedding, invited someone i didnt like and it turned out fine : (33 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    not engaged yet, but if a certain uncle of mine wasn’t able to make it, i would be thrilled. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Nope. I refuse, family or not.

    Post # 5
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We invited an aunt that is…good in small doses. This aunt is incredibly negative and likes to stir up drama with anyone and everyone. We love her, and I feel kinda sorry for her, because she’s got some health problems, she’s 60 and doesn’t get along with many people in the family. But that’s mostly because she abandoned 3 of her 4 children to be raised by their fathers, and taught the other one to be a drug-addled hippy.

    We invited her anyway, and she was pretty good for most of the wedding – I heard later that she started some drama with some of her family, bitched about my in-laws, etc. but I didn’t notice any of it on the day, and pretty much everyone just ignored her because “that’s how she is.”

    Post # 6
    Member
    983 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m not inviting my sister.  She only talks to me when she wants to or needs something.  She’s caused too much drama over my wedding date and her Darling Husband started some crap on FB that was personal. I don’t need them at my wedding. They were at my first one. They don’t need to be at this one. I don’t need  her drama at this one. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance’s younger brother is invited, even though he’s a complete asshole.  He probably won’t come.  

    My fiance’s older brother I could do without — he’s a complete misogynist.  Oh well.  I just don’t talk to them.

    Post # 8
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    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    one of the groomsmen has an awful gf. She’s loud, drinks too much, and is super fake. BUT they are a package deal. I can suck it up. It just irks me that she has to be at our wedding rehearsal too. she is just horrible.

    Post # 13
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    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    One of the (many) reasons why we are having a small wedding is to specifically avoid “political invites.”  Not inviting any of the weird family members; definitely NOBODY from work; and no acquaintences.  The only people who made the list had to pass the following tests: Are they an important part in our lives? Are we comfortable and happy around them? Would they help us move a body?

    However, we did follow etiquette in that if a person is in a relationship with someone, their SO was invited too.  But if they were truly single, no +1.

    Post # 14
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    1358 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Well, there’s some family drama on DH’s side that I was worried about, though it turned out to be a non-issue, and it felt odd to have some people there I’d never met from DH’s extended family. But for the most part, we loved the people we celebrated with and wouldn’t have had it any other way. No, we didn’t invite the craziest of my family members I didn’t want to put up with and never see, nor people from our past who aren’t part of our lives now. That’s the joy of a small wedding!

     

    The only “suck it up” moment for me was in choosing to have my father walk me down the aisle despite our rocky relationship. My mom is ill and she has always had to play mediator between my father and me, so I knew it would make her happy to have my father walk with me and be really disappointed if I didn’t ask him to.

    Post # 16
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    2685 posts
    Sugar bee

    There’s a few people I’d rather not invite but will have to because they’re +1’s to other guests.  They wouldn’t be high on my invite list otherwise, but I can certainly tolerate them.  The family members I really dislike are not getting invites at all.  I haven’t spoken to these particular members in over 5 years, and their presence would only cause drama among the family I will be inviting.  

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