(Closed) Are you/have you invited someone you REALLY dislike to your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: have you invited someone you dont like?
    yes, family members : (120 votes)
    36 %
    no-one : (70 votes)
    21 %
    yes, partners of guests : (95 votes)
    29 %
    had my wedding and wished I hadnt invited someone : (12 votes)
    4 %
    Had my wedding, invited someone i didnt like and it turned out fine : (33 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 92
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    478 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Not an option for this on the poll, but there’s someone we aren’t related to that my mom wants to invite & it’s driving me crazy! I try to hint at evey chance that we just want family & a few CLOSE friends!

    Post # 93
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    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @smallstuff:  Yes, my aunt and uncle! They are rude to me and probably will come and not even say hi or congrats. My grandma is starting to regret that they were invited as well.

    Post # 93
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    1 posts
    Wannabee

    My awful sister in law…didn’t ask me to be a bridesmaid when she married my brother and I was 23 but now, 15 years later, after 15 years of many of her weird tirades against me…I’m getting married,she’s 47 and has taken the hump against me all summer for not asking her to be a bridesmaid.. she doesn’t even like me and has spent 25 years making no secret of it!? but my brother says,if I don’t apologise to her…she will continue her perceived victim role and he too will avoid my wedding.  damn near broke my heart. so tomo for him and the sake of not letting this psycho cow upset my family and split it up on a special day..I’m going grovelling, with fingers crossed behind my back mind! 

    Post # 94
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    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    Definitely my ‘evil’ Nana. (FI read this over my shoulder when he brought me my cup of tea just then – he laughed and completely agrees).

    If she comes, she’ll make a few backhanded comments, probably insult my father, but mainly sit quietly and whisper to my grandfather the whole night. She’ll likely give an uncomfortably large cash donation that she’ll boast about very loudly. But I can deal with all that.

    If she doesn’t come, she’ll be aggressive and painful about it to her dying day. She already causes a lot of tension in our family, and as much as I don’t care for her, it’ll be less painful if she is at the wedding (or – fingers crossed – declines the invitation).

    Post # 95
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    3875 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    smallstuff :  Darling Husband and I invited the wife of DH’s brother and I absolutely wish we hadn’t. She RSVP’d yes and then didn’t show up the day of, copped some lame excuse, and now pouts anytime our wedding is brought up. Overall, I wish we hadn’t invited her, saved the money, and, as petty as this sounds, at least given me the satisfaction of knowing she didn’t attend by my choice. 

    Post # 96
    Member
    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    The best man… bleh

    Post # 97
    Member
    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2022

    FI’s sister in law is a troublemaker and attention seeker. His brother is also a pain because he has never made any effort with me and recently sent nasty texts to my Fiance, as did his wife, about what a crap member of the family he was and accusing him of loads of stuff. The brothers have made up but I’ve said if they do that again they are not coming. i begrudge paying for them and their child. 

    Post # 98
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    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    smallstuff :  Parents wanted to include a childhood friend of mine, but I spoke up and told my mom that the “friend” is now a very mean person I do not like. So I won that battle. I lost when it came to leaving out the Debby Downer uncle and alcoholic cousin. They live in a different state, though, so I’m crossing my fingers they aren’t able to make it. Fortunately, if they do come they have a large household, so I can seat them all together. 

    Post # 99
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    smallstuff :  UGH There is this girl at work I cannot stand. She’s really fake nice to everyone and a suck up but she probably has no idea I don’t like her. I want to invite everyone else (small office of about 10 people) but her which would cause major drama so I’m thinking I have to bite the bullet and invite her. I’m assuming she won’t bother me too much with so many people there right? Or maybe she won’t come. (crossing fingers)

    Post # 100
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    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Yep, our friend’s SO! Neither of us can stand him. Luckily they weren’t able to attend in the end!

    Post # 101
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    27 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Overjoyed :  How did it go? have this situation with my dad. Don’t want him there, but also don’t want to throw him to the side like garbage, so I am stuck somewhere in the gut wrenching middle.

    Post # 102
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    2016 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    my Darling Husband originally wanted to invite someone to our wedding who basically hated me and called me a wh*re and b*tch to him behind my back on a regular basis for years, and constantly tried to tell him not to get married. They were casual mall/coffee hangout kinda friends for years. Funny thing is, the minute we became engaged she immediately became all nice and friendly, and constantly wanted to know wedding details. 

    i flat out told him NO, when she finally got around to asking if she was going to be invited. I did not budge on the matter, and Darling Husband completely understood. 

    their friendship ended soon after our wedding. Darling Husband didnt even consider it a bad thing nor could have cared. So it all worked out in the end. 

    Post # 103
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    oops i accidentally posted twice and can’t delete.

    Post # 104
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    3449 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    lizziebee33 :  It went fine because I took a lot of precautions to avoid presenting her with opportunities to be hurtful. For example, I didn’t send a car for her, didn’t have her come get ready with me, I crossed all the mother/daughter pics off the shot list, I didn’t ask her to give a speech, etc. I also seated her at a table behind me at the rehearsal and reception. She was still close to the front, and no one (probably not even her) noticed that I set it up strategically so that she wouldn’t be able to make eye contact with me at any point. 

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