(Closed) Are your bridesmaids changing for reception?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Are your bridesmaids changing outfits for reception?
    Yes, and I don't mind : (0 votes)
    Yes, unfortunately : (1 votes)
    3 %
    No, they don't want to but I wouldn't mind : (9 votes)
    31 %
    No, because I don't want them to : (17 votes)
    59 %
    Other (Explained below) : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I haven’t seen this but I seriously wished I could’ve for a wedding I was in. The straps were digging into my neck something fierce. It tore into my skin and I had a big sore for a week.

    Why does she want to change? Is she uncomfortable in her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress?

    I think it’s a little strange based on my personal experiences.

    Post # 4
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee

    I have honestly never seen it done.  Your poll doesn’t really have an option for just no.  I picked the one that says I wouldn’t mind because if it was that important to them or they were for some reason uncomfortable in what they were wearing *which would never happen as long as I’m picking the outfit* then I guess that would be fine.  I guess I should have just picked other.  But in my opinion, if you’re part of the wedding party, you’d want to stay that way and visually stand out as one of the closest people to the wedding couple.  The more I think about it, it almost seems to borderline on rude to change after the ceremony! Maybe I’m overthinking it…

    Post # 5
    Member
    2226 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    You know, I’ve never even thought of this.  I’ve always figured I spent all this money on a dress, I’m going to wear it as long as possible. 

    I like the “uniform” (for lack of a better look) of the bridesmaids throughout the evening.  It sets them apart.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I haven’t seen it, but I wouldn’t be against it.  None of my BM’s have said this is their plan but they are welcome to go for it.  By that point the formal pictures are done and the only thing left to do is enjoy themselves and party.  Its similar to when the men take off their jackets/vest/ties or whatever.  As long as they’re comfy, I’m good.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    mine didn’t, but i wouldn’t have minded if they had a good reason. it was supposed to be really cold for our wedding and our reception was outside, so when we were discussing what jacket my moh was going to wear i told her that she could wear whatever she wanted, i don’t care if she puts on sweatpants (she didn’t like that idea and had a super cute jacket) as long as she was in her dress for the ceremony and pictures.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve never heard of this.  Mine are only changing for the after party I think.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My sisters are my ‘maids and their dresses are non-matching.  If they really wanted to change it wouldn’t make a difference to me, but they spent over $100 on their dresses so I don’t think they’ll want to do so!

    It’s definitely out of the norm for the bridal party to change for the reception, but as long as you’re past pictures and it won’t make you upset, I say let her be comfortable and do what she wants.

    Post # 12
    Member
    368 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I have never heard of a bridesmaid changing out of her dress at the reception. Maybe she would change before she went out after the reception if they wanted to continue the party.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I said “no, because I don’t want them to,” but honestly, it’s just a “no.” They haven’t asked about it and I haven’t told them that they couldn’t. However, if one were to ask, I’d prefer they stayed in character!

    Post # 14
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee

    @FutureMrs.Taylor – what a bummer.  Hearing the backstory makes it seem all the more rude.  I’m so sorry to hear that someone is trying to do their own thing for your wedding.  I can’t believe that a Bridesmaid or Best Man would go against a bride’s wishes and pick out their own dress.  I don’t know your relationship with this Bridesmaid or Best Man and please don’t take this the wrong way, but are you sure you want this person as a BM?  It sounds like she really just wants to do her own thing and not really be a part of your day.

    Post # 15
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee

    @Gemstone – I agree! I think it’s an honor to be asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man – I’d want to show off the Bridesmaid or Best Man status all night!

    Post # 16
    Member
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I have never seen this, but I think it really depends on the dress. I was in a wedding recently where it would have been nice to be able to change, because my dress didn’t fit me well and it was falling off all night! But, I think it would be a little weird for all the BMs to change for the reception!

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