(Closed) Are your bridesmaids even excited? PLEASE SHARE BM STORIES

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My bridesmaids didn’t get their dresses (I found the cheapest ones I could) so when they went off sale, I found dresses that cost three times as much and made them get those a month before the wedding.

They didn’t plan a bridal shower or a bachelorette party…my coworkers took me out for dinner to make up for it because I broke down crying at work.

And then my bridesmaid got HAMMERED at the no alcohol reception and ruined my wedding night. RUINED IT. I spent it hiding from her because she kept trying to come talk to me about what she did, even after she passed out drunk in the bathroom at the afterparty, where several people heard her snoring.

Yeah…

Best of luck!

 

Post # 4
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631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

They WILL NOT walk down the aisle barefoot. You mentioned age and I looked at your date. In a young persons’s mind that’s plennnty of time. They will get shoes.

I would do what I do with my grown sons. Stop communicating for a few days, not meanly just not the usual. I am thunking they will remember you then.

Post # 5
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My BMs have been great but now with 33 days to go, I have no idea if one is still in the wedding.   She doesn’t have her dress and won’t answer any of my calls, hasn’t been responding to my text messages, and even when we are on FB at the same time and I message her, she doesn’t respond. 

There is no way for her to get her dress if she doesn’t contact me because the dresses are being made.  I’m beyond pissed because I have done so much for her and if something came up and she is no longer able to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man I would think she would be courteous enough to pick up the phone and say something to me.

There was an issue with the first dress so I had to pick another dress which she didn’t like.  I told her she can find a pattern she likes but the dresses all had to be in the same material.  Well, I have her material but can’t mail it to her because she won’t answer me to give me the correct address.

It is what it is.  I would’ve loved for her to be in my wedding but I’m just going to enjoy my day with my other ladies.

Post # 6
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Uh, well one of my original MOH’s is no longer my friend and didn’t make it halfway through planning? Lol. Never loan a “friend” money, pay for half of their dress, or try and make a point about finances. You will be told you “just don’t understand” why they bought a dog and new sh*t instead of paying you back…which, you don’t and won’t. Lol.

My BFF/MOH was amazing, but preoccupied – she literally left for a big awesome trip right after the reception! (This wasn’t on purpose, she didn’t know until about two months before the wedding, so obviously dates could not be changed.)

My bachelorette party was a bust. Meh, it’s alright. I’m still married and the three awesome women who stood up there with me are still my friends. 🙂

Post # 7
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220 posts
Helper bee

I wouldn’t worry about it I basically only asked for dress and shows and ppl procrastinated to the last minute even a few weeks ago one Bridesmaid or Best Man told me they still had not gotten their dress hemmed or their shoes….my wedding is this weekend. The best advise i have gotten on the bee is ” your wedding is not as important to everyone else as it is to you” 

 This has helped me avoid a number of meltdowns when i felt ppl were being unreasonable or treating me like a bridezilla because of a simple request… keep in mind this is the only event in life where we ask ppl close to us to buy/ wear clothes they don’t want and it can be a complicated process the best you can do is take care of yourself and just stop asking her about it as PP said she won’t go down the aisle barefoot 🙂

Post # 9
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@AnonymousCupcake:  It’s great that you realize not everyone will be as excited as you are. Now you need to realize that as far as BMs are concerned, there is still plenty of time for them to do everything they need to yet, buy shoes and what not. these girls have over a month, and they don’t have anywhere near the same number of last minute details to deal with like you do, so you are most likely already on edge and stressed to the max that you may be coming across more negatively in your questions to these girls then you think.

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