(Closed) Are your folks upset you changed your name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my mom took my dad’s last name and my sil took my brothers, so it was kind of expected that i would too. my mom does tend to forget though. she picked up a prescription for me and had them looking all over for meds under my maiden name.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nope – my mom took my dad’s name so that would be kinda hypocritical of them LOL

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Same as the other posters – my mom took my dad’s name, so my parents just assumed I’d be taking my husband’s name.

That’s rough that your parents aren’t being very supportive of your decision.  I’m sorry you’re going through this and hopefully they get over it once they get used to your new name!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

No, that hasn’t happened….but, when I threw out the idea that I wanted to keep my maiden name, they hassled me for that one.  In the end, I went with DH’s last name and I’m 100% fine with that, but I thought it was funny they gave me a hard time (not a real hard time where I got mad, just a hard time like families do. lol)

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would make sure your parents really are upset. There’s teasing, and there’s actually being morally opposed to it. Your parents might actually be fine with it, just trying to “swing” you their way so to speak. If your parents really are upset, you should talk to them and resolve it because it’s a dumb thing to be upset about it! But if they aren’t, then I would hate for you to be stressing about it unnecessarily.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My parents both kept their own names and I plan to do the same (though future hubby has talked about taking my name, I’m not entirely supportive of that).  I would expect that your mom and dad are just trying to pass on their wisdom and strength of personality

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m a Kennedy (not related to JFK or anything) but my dad has always been super into the Kennedys (JFK, Jackie O, Teddy) and he is a bit distraught that I have zero desire to keep my last name. He’s kind of silly.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Nope they didn’t care. I mean sure it was a little sad on all parts but we don’t have anyone in my family that has ever not taken their husband’s name so it was to be expected/normal for us.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Actually, where I’m from, women keep their maiden names after marriage. If I change my name right away, though, I’m dropping my really long middle name for my mom’s maiden name, which is only two letters. Both my parents love that idea. Then I’m hyphenating our last names, and so is my partner. He’s cool like that.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My mom took my dads last name and I am taking my FI’s and my parents are perfectly ok with it. My FIL’s however were talking about their engaged daughter and how silly it would be for her to change her name and then get silent and asked o are you changing your name. I said I was and it was very awkward. They are Swedish though and it is not as common there but still I felt a bit put off.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My mother is clearly not excited about me changing my name. She has made some little comments about what a great maiden name I have (it’s also her maiden name, but she changed it all 3 times she got married). She also made some sort of scoff noise when she saw a check someone sent us as a gift, made out to Groom and Bride Hislastname. FSIL has told me that her mother didn’t start taking her married name seriously until recently – FSIL will have been married for 2 years this November.

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