Post # 1
And do you care?
My mom and grandmother (none from FI’s side) are choosing dresses that will basically be opposite from my wedding colors.
I get it, the colors they are choosing are nice on them and so it’s probably easiest for them to find something nice in those colors. I will not be asking them to reconsider. I was just taken aback by this!
To be fair, I’m not advertising that I have “wedding colors” – I don’t have a bridal party and most of the decor will be white, but there will be accent colors which she did know about because I was using them to pick flower girl dresses. Funny thing, they are both going only looking at dresses in the exact colors I am purposely avoiding putting in the decor and flowers! (Blue and purple).
She told me that she explained to our family friend when she offered to do my flowers that any flower colors would work because I don’t have colors – oops! Mom’s obviously not hearing what I’m saying! Also random, found out my aunt is telling people she is going to buy personalized stemless wedding glasses to give everyone at our reception because she saw it at the last wedding she went to – hope she forgets about that one! These are the issues with be being x-country from my family, I guess. I think I’m planning a wedding, and they get their own ideas…
Anyhow, this is more of a vent. It bothers me a bit but it’s one of those things that if it makes them happier, that’s more important and I will get over it!
Post # 3
yup. Mother-In-Law wore silver/ charcoal dress MOB wore a champange/ pale silver dress.
Post # 4
I originally asked my mom to pick a neutral to coordinate and not clash with our wedding colours (white, ivory, silver, gold, blush)…… and I am pretty sure she’s going with blue.
To be honest, the NON-neutral colours looked way better on her… and now I don’t really care what she wears!
Post # 5
I would prefer my our moms match, and I will suggest it, but It’s not a huge deal.
Really, our colors are pinks, black, & ivory, so I doubt either will be able to find anything to match that fit their age/style. Pastel pink would be perfect [bridesmaids will be in a dark/hotish pink].
Post # 6
Nope. Didn’t care what color they wore. My mom happen to pick a purple dress without knowing my colors were red and purple (bms were in red) and Mother-In-Law picked a gold dress.
Post # 7
The moms in my wedding picked colors that contrasted and I loved it!
Post # 8
I didn’t even know that was a thing, until my mom actually brought it up. Maybe she learned that from my sister, who got married two years ago. So she wants to wear blue, which is one of my colors. But I honestly don’t care; I just want her to pick a dress she feels beautiful in!
Post # 9
Personally, I don’t care what Future Mother-In-Law wears as long as it’s not a white dress (even then, it would just be irritating and yet another sign of how rude, tactless, and clueless she is). She could just show up in jeans if she wanted to, and although I might be hurt that she didn’t think more of the occasion, it would only reflect on her.
I don’t care if our mothers coordinate with each other or my wedding colors. They’re guests like any other, and I want them to wear what flatters them and makes them feel comfortable and beautiful.
Post # 10
@confettiegg2000: Your mom and Mother-In-Law did a great job coordinating with each other!
Post # 11
@lazy: Yes I specifially asked my mom and Future Mother-In-Law to wear something that would go with the rest of us
Post # 12
Nope, our moms are total opposites. FI’s mom shops at LL Bean, my mom shops at Forever 21, so I figured it’d be easier to just not care.
Post # 13
My mom is coordinating with our colors and my FI’s mom won’t be at the wedding
Post # 14
No, this doesn’t matter to me at all. I just don’t want them wearing white/ivory. I really want them to look nice.
Post # 15
My mom and Future Mother-In-Law will be wearing colors that go with the vibe of our wedding….flowers, decor, and BMs will be in fall-ish colors, and Future Mother-In-Law & my mom are going to be wearing colors in the fall/earthy family, so either deep rust/plum/olive/brown.
Post # 16
My mom & fmil are wearing complementing colors. Our colors are purples, white, sparkly silver. Fi mom will likely wear a charcoal color. Not sure about my mom yet. But she already told me we need to bring the swatch from my bm dresses to make sure they “Go together & don’t clash”.