Post # 1
Hi ladies – Just wondering what the stats are like on here. Are your parents still married, divorced, never married in the first place?
If your parents are divorced, how did that influence your thoughts on marriage…..? Personally, I never allow peoples past experiences to affect my future, I will learn about life through my own trials and tribulations, but will seek advice along the way, perhaps learn from other peoples mistakes, but ultimately I will make my own choices. I still believe in the sanctity of marriage and all it stands for, however, I guess if I did not live in a country where it is illegal to have children out of wedlock, I guess I would be in less of a rush to marry….overall, I think the best environment to bring children up, is in a secure and happy marriage, but life does not always work out the way we want too….WE HAVE TO LIVE AND LEARN, and follow our hearts,
My parents are divorced, divorced after 4 years of marriage, 15 years together in total. I am not bitter, I preferred it that way, ideally would have been nice if it worked out and we could all play happy families, but ultimately them being together would have been detrimental to them, me and my brother..! Would rather have two happy parents single then two crazy parents together.
This does not however, make me loose hope that I can learn from my parents past, marry my Fiance and work through our down times, I am also not like my mother, I don’t have a penchant for bad boys, I hate to say it, but I think I am a lot wiser then she was in her 20’s and 30’s. Although today, she is a wealth of wisdom!
Post # 3
Still married. Married in 1969. Absolutely miserable – should have divorced decades ago.
FI’s parents married in 1960. They are adorable together. Love being around them.
Post # 4
Ha. My mom’s been married 4 times, three of which happened in one decade- the 90s when I needed a mum :/ (I was 6-16)
Post # 5
Still married, and still madly in love, as are FI’s parents. I aspire to be like them in 30+ years.
Post # 6
@cbee: Oh WOW!!! That must have been a little hard on you, all those changes and different father figures. 3x in a decade? Blimey….. Out of interest, were all her weddings grand affairs or simple court house weddings?
Post # 7
Mine are still married, 33 years 🙂 DH’s parents are divorced, his mom is remarried, his dad is on wife #3
Post # 8
Mine are married for 31 years. My husband’s parents were both previously married, had different kids, then married each other and had my husband. They’ve been married for around 32 years I think.
Post # 9
@abbie017: That’s nice to hear 🙂 Hope yet.
Post # 10
My parents are still together, but they shouldn’t be. It hasn’t given me a negative view on marriage. I viewed their marriage as an example of what not to do.
My fiance’s parents are still married and doing okay, though I don’t think they’re madly in love with each other or anything. They love and appreciate each other, but it’s not the kissy/full of chemistry kind of love.
My fiance and I aspire to have a better marriage than all of them…no abuse, communicate in healthy ways, stay in love, maintain the chemistry, etc.
Post # 11
My parents are still happily married after 34 years. If I’m half as happy in my first year of marriage as they still are in their 34th, I will consider myself a very lucky person. FI’s parents are also still married after something like 35 or 36 years.
Post # 12
My parents have been married 41 years now. They have split up twice (one when my oldest siblings were young and then when my sister and I were young) but never divorced. THey are currently raising my brother’s son and he’s disrespectful to my dad, several times he has said for my mom to choose and she doesnt pick my dad. I’m honestly surprised they’re still together.
His mom and dad divorced before he was born but stayed together til he was 5 yrs old (i think), his dad remarried when he was 12 yrs old (not sure about his mom, they’re not close) and then passed away in 2008 because of his second wife. I’m not too fond of the step mom at all but she’s still around somewhat.
Post # 13
@GroovyHippieChick: same here. All of us kids are full grown with kids of our own and they are still married and miserable. My dad has some pretty major problems both physically and mentally so my mom will never leave him. She always said she made those vows and intended to keep them no matter how much she hated my dad.
In response to the other part of OP’s question.. Because of how miserable my parents are I always vowed I would NEVER get married.. I knew Fiance was the one I would spend forever with since we met 4 years ago, he’s the only person I considered actually being married to, and only admitted to that fact a little less than a year ago, when i discovered what an amazing father he is, something my dad never really was. Sure, in other ways my dad was great but being a supportive father figure, not so much. He seemed to put himself first always, even when he didn’t know it. But when we had our little girl and I saw how proud and happy Fiance was to have her in his life and how amazing he has been with her for the last 7 months. I will NEVER leave his side. I cannot wait to be Mrs. Puckett!!
FI’s parents are still married and very happy!
Post # 14
My parents have been married just about 30 years. Both sets of my grandparents have been married 50+. I’ve had great role models. My fiance’s parents have also been married almost 30 years.
Post # 15
Divorced, as are FI’s parents. All are remarried. FI’s mum has been married 3 times actually, the first time she was married was before she was with FI’s dad! Doesn’t affect my view on marriage, aside to show that marriage doesn’t have to be forever I suppose!
Post # 16
@hotchildinthecity: FI’s parents are the same way. both have kids from previous marriages then married each other and had FI! Going 29 years strong!