(Closed) Are your parents still in love?

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: Are your parents still in love?
    Yes, they are in love as much as (if not more) than the day they met. : (36 votes)
    40 %
    I wouldn't define it as love, but they seem happy together. : (15 votes)
    17 %
    I can't tell. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    They seem to be unhappy, but they have stayed together. : (8 votes)
    9 %
    They were not happy and are no longer together. : (25 votes)
    28 %
    N/A - I lost one or both of my parents :-( : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My parents were young (age 19) and very low on money when they got married.  I think they’ve both told me they would have waited a little longer in retrospect.  I think one of the best choices they made was not having children right away — they had been married seven years when their first child was born.  They went through some rocky periods when I was younger and once even told us they were "thinking of spending some time apart," but they never did.  They had about two years during which we children had all moved out and they had the house all to themselves, and my mom told me they really enjoyed being together and did well during this time (it didn’t last…one of my older brothers moved back in after a bad breakup; he doesn’t make much $ and can’t afford his own place right now).

    35 years later, they definitely have their share of disagreements, but there are times when I think they are still as much in love as ever.  

    Post # 4
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    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    My parents were 21 when they married and 38 years later they still hold hands and my dad still pinches my mom’s butt and tickles her.  I think their love has grown over the years.  It gives me a lot of hope.

    Post # 5
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2008

    My dad passed away 6 years ago, but even through a long battle with cancer, I think they were still in love.

    Post # 6
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    36 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My parents have been married for over 26 years, and I would definitely say that they are still in love.  I think that they grew closer again when all of us kids moved out, and they started going on regular date nights.  They found a place where they love to go to happy hours together, usually on Fridays, and they have even gone out dancing!! 

    I think that love changes with time… obviously their relationship probably isn’t the way that it was when they met in college and before we were all born, but I think that it is a relationship that is filled with understanding and support and that is deeper.  They met when they were 19, and married when my mom was 23 and my dad was 24, so they have spent more time together in life than they have apart, and I think that that brings something unique and special to their love… something that young couples just are unable to have!

    Post # 7
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I’m confident my parents are more in love, nearly thirty years and four children later. It’s definitely inspiring- I have always wanted to be in love like them (and now I am!). I am with Caliocteach- my parent’s do that stuff too (butt pinch,kissing and holding hands). As kids we used to pretend to be disgusted, but secretly enjoyed knowing they adore one another. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    1379 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    32 years, 3 kids, and now one grandchild — still totally in love. It’s gross!  Haha only joking — luckily both my fiance and my parents are happily married so we have great role models to watch.

    Post # 9
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    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My parents divorced when I was in the 3rd grade, but it’s for the better since they weren’t right together.  My mom never found anyone great after that, just some losers, so not much inspiration for me there…but it also makes me feel THAT MUCH LUCKIER! 

    My husband’s parents are still together, getting close to that 30 year mark.  They are definately still in love, it’s cute and actually kind of gross sometimes if you hear the stuff my Father-In-Law likes to say.  I also look at them and make mental notes of some things I know I never want in our marriage…she’s more of a June Cleaver, submissive wife…but sorry none of that in my house, there’s one pair of pants and we each wear a leg!

    Post # 10
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    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My parents will have been married for 30 years this coming August, and I do think they are just as in love as they were when they got married.  I think during a time in my siblings and my childhood they were more busy and didn’t necessarily have the time to be much of a "couple", but now that we’ve grown they go on dates every weekend!

    Post # 11
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    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My parents were married for over 20 years, but I can’t remember many instances where I witnessed them acting "in love".  In the long run, their seperation was a great thing, but it was hard going through a parents’ divorce as an adult (think Rachel on "Friends).  It certainly made me question all of my relationships, since I was so terrified of making a mistake "like my mother".

    Post # 12
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    225 posts
    Helper bee

    My parents have been divorced since I was 2…..right choice for my mom though, since my dad is/was a b*stard.  I’ve been pretty cool with it….basically always.

     Mr. Banana’s parents, though, have recently been having a really tough time recently and I feel for him – it is really upsetting him greatly to see them fight.  I think/hope that everything will resolve ok for them because as far as I can tell, they have been extremely happily married for 25 years – until the last 6 months!

    Post # 13
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    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

    This year is my ‘rents 30th wedding anniversary. They are the cutest, most affectionate, "older" couple I know. They still cuddle on the couch and hold hands. They take walks together and have a weekly date night. They truly have been an inspiration to me and I hope that I have the same thing when I’m their age.

    Post # 14
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    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    My parents were high school sweethearts, married at 21.  Its been 35 years, 2 kids and I would say they are happier now than they have ever been.  They are really cute in fact!  I think they went through many rocky, trying times.  But they emerged stronger and happier because of it.  Although my mom still wishes she had waited to get married and I think it happy I lived on my own for many years (married at 31) before I got married.   My mom was raised by a single mother (never saw her dad after they divorced when she was 6) and my dad’s parents were unhappily married for 40+ years.  So it is possible to have a long healthy marriage even if you didn’t have those role models!!

    It is interesting that most of my friends have married parents – ALL of my bridsemaids (6) and husband’s parents are still married, most happily. 

     

    Post # 16
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    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    my parents have been together for 32 years and i’ve never seen them happier. like any couple, they’ve had their fair share of fights and disagreements. but in the end, they fall in love with each other all over again.

    i don’t think they notice us, but from time to time, my sister, brother and i still catch them sneaking kisses here and there.  they’re so cute! i hope FH and i can keep the fire burning 32 years from now too!

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