Post # 1
Hi bees, just wondering, are you or your SO ever too tired for sex on a typical night?
I would say I have a slightly higher sex drive than my DH, since I rarely turn him down 😛 But if he had a long day at work, then we definitely won’t be having any fun in bed that night, since he would be worried about his performance.
How often do you/SO turn down sex because of tiredness? How does work affect your sex life?
Post # 2
Uh, yeah. We are both nearly 40, been together 10 years and damn straight we are too tired on the regular!
Work stress comes into it for sure, but really, as long as we are still having sex at least once a week I call it a win.
Post # 3
Yes always too tired. I pass out when my head hits the pillow at 10pm. He is often up later as he finishes work late then exercises. We don’t even have kids yet so I don’t know how we will cope in future! Weekends are all about us at the moment though so we are lucky in that regard
Post # 4
It might be unromantic to some, but my FI and I make sure we prioritize sex a few days a week. We might not even be in the mood, but we quickly get there! Yesterday, for example. I came home from work, and he had just showered. I followed suite, and sex happened early in the night. If we had waited until bed time, it wouldn’t have happened, so it’s often before dinner. We have sex (and it’s really amazing sex) 3-5 times a week.
Post # 5
Yes! We do it in the morning usually or right when we get home from work. Otherwise I fall asleep on the couch and I am then too tired.
Post # 6
Yes. We have sex once a week at the moment if we are lucky ! My period comes every three weeks, and we have four year old twins with a eff load of energy. I have a higher sex drive and if his tired or stressed from work it’s unlikely. It’s also hard because morning sex and afternoon sex is basically ruled out as the little ones are awake and by the time they are asleep we want to be as well. I do wish we had sex at least twice a week, I’m going to be bringing it up to him to so we can think of ways around it. I’m currently laying in bed between him and one of my twins … both asleep. Hashtag parent life for you.
Post # 7
We have a 1.5 year old. Yes I’m always tired lol.
Post # 8
We work long days and his job is physically draining, so we can’t just hope for it to always happen organically. We like our sleep! Maybe this isn’t romantic, but most of the time my husband and I have to schedule sex. Not like on a calendar or anything but it really isn’t a spur of the moment type of thing. Works for us!
Post # 9
Yes between 2 kids and my husband working usually at least 60 hours a week we are both pretty tired. I told him 8:45 or 9pm is basically the only time. He tried last night at like 10:20 when I’m on my way to bed. Uhhhh….nope.
Post # 10
Yup. DH and I work long, weird hours (12 and 16 hour overnight shifts, regularly) so there are definitely times it does not happen because either of us is just too tired.
Post # 11
mus1ca1xo : Yes. We have a toddler and I’m pregnant with our next. Of course there are times we are tired. It’s only natural. But that doesn’t mean sex is put on the backburner. It just means there are times we are not having sex every single day.
Post # 12
I’m a newlywed and still get tired sometimes. It’s just human nature! There was one night I actually fell asleep on him, we laughed it off and finished in the morning lmao
Post # 13
Of course, being tired sometimes is just a part of life. My husband just started a very stressful and time consuming PhD program so he’s frequently too tired/busy for sex. It’s not a huge deal, if I feel like we aren’t having enough I’ll talk to him about it and we try to make it happen more. But sometimes we are just too tired!
Post # 14
I would be shocked if someone said they were never, ever, not once in their life too tired to have sex! I’m too tired to read a book after work sometimes, much less have sex. It does sometimes cause issues because we can go a few weeks without it and all of the sudden we’re like “wait, why aren’t we having sex anymore, I miss you!” But that’s always pretty easily solved with some schedule changes.
Post # 15
LOL who voted never? Who here is never ever tired? I want to know your secret!