Are you/SO ever too tired for sex?

posted 7 months ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Are YOU ever too tired for sex?
    Yep, always : (49 votes)
    35 %
    Never! : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Sometimes (explain below) : (86 votes)
    62 %
  • Post # 16
    1292 posts
    Bumble bee

    SO and I both work 9-5’s, then usually meet up at the gym afterwards, rush home around 7:30, and try to have dinner ready to eat by 8. So yeah, after killing ourselves at the gym, the stress of rushing around after a full day of work, and all the digesting… we can wind up “too tired.” But we still make the effort to overcome that in order to have sex at least 3-4 times a week.

    Who knows if that will continue once we’ve been together much longer and have kids in the mix. I’d like to think it would, but there are so many horror stories…

    Post # 17
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I answered sometimes because yes we have busy lives but I make sure to make sex a priority in my marriage. If that means right before bed or in the morning or a little afternoon delight! We do whatever we can make time for.

    Post # 18
    2926 posts
    Sugar bee

    I work and commute and I’m always tired! 

    Post # 20
    1152 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Yes – normally during the week. We usually just have sex on the weekend, it sounds boring but it’s when we have energy! 😋 

    Post # 21
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    FI has a physically demanding job, so I know it’s not happening on his work days (plus on those days I leave before he gets up and he gets home right when I’m going to sleep).

    Post # 22
    3174 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer's Beach, Grand Cayman

    We have a 4 month old who sleeps in our room, so yeah I voted “always”. We used to have sex 3-5 days a week and now are lucky to do it every other week, I’m hoping it gets better once our daughter moves to her own room. 

    Post # 23
    715 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely. We both have super high sex drives, but we also have very busy schedules.. We get up at 5:30am and I either go to the gym or study before work, he has a physical job, we both work 40+ hrs plus are in professional courses, and planning a wedding, and have active social and family lives. So yes, we’re tired a lot haha. We will have morning quickies now and then on weekdays, and then usually sex binge on the weekend, having sex several times a day. We’ll very occasionally have a good go at it on a weekeday evening, but it has to be right when i get home from work or we’re too burned out. 

    Post # 24
    4261 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Sure, it happens. My drive is a little higher than DH’s lately, but with his current internship early in the morning, it’s essential that he gets plenty of sleep. We’ve gotten good at reading each other, though, so it’s rare for one of us to turn the other down because we know already if the other isn’t in the mood.

    Post # 25
    3463 posts
    Sugar bee

    My husband told me this morning that last night, I fell asleep in the middle of saying a sentence to him. So my answer to the poll would be “yes.”

    Post # 26
    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

    Unfortunately, this happens more often than I’d like. FI works retail with a different schedule every week, but he oten closes, meaning he gets home around 11. I get up at 6 every morning, so when he closes, we rarely have the time to get intimate. Even if he gets home at a reasonable hour, I’m a teacher, so I bring a ton of work home with me…and I also put a lot of pressure on myself to finish grading/planning whatever I brought home that day, so sometimes I’m working until 11 and then just too tired to do anything but go to bed.

    Post # 27
    1983 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We are both in our early 40’s, work f/t and I have a one hour commute each way. I am exhausted by the end of the day so am usually falling asleep on the couch. This certainly hasn’t helped our sex life but whatever…it happens. 

    Post # 28
    66 posts
    Worker bee

    My SO has a much higher sex drive than me.  (Dating younger men is the best!)  I’ve been in relationships where I’ve had a much higher sex drive, and been rejected over and over.  So I try to be considerate.  I will usually have sex even when I’m tired.  However, he is going to do all the work.  😉

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