Post # 1
So I never realized just how much a ring mattered to some people until I joined this site. So I made a poll and am very curious to see how you all respond. 🙂
How much does the ring matter to you basically?
My thoughts were, as long as I get a ring and as long as it’s a diamond I don’t care about the size or shape. Didn’t need to be big or fancy. Used to not know anything about the cut or different styles.
I wouldn’t dare use the word ‘picky’ for anyones choices either! I think a proposal should ideally only come once in a lifetime and a girl should get to have the ring of her dreams if it’s that important to her 🙂
Post # 3
So I REALLY wanted a stoneless engagment ring that could also serve as As my wedding band. As I wanted something very non-traditional, I talked to him about what I Was hoping for. We looked at a few designs but fell in love with one. My love is of the opinion that he wanted to spoil me with my exact dream ring. If I hadn’t wanted something so unique, he would have probably picked it himself but it totally happy with the way we did it. He is so proud knowing his girl is getting her dream ring.
Post # 4
I’ve showed him a few styles and hope he picks from those
Post # 5
@nocleverbeepun: Aw nice 🙂 That’s one thing I like about having input… Essentially it’s the start of a marriage and it’s nice that two people can work on finding a ring together. Glad you found one you love!
I don’t get an option haha. I’ll be getting an heirloom ring, so I think that’s another reason I’ve never put too much thought into what I want.
Post # 6
I was pretty picky….wanted something unique, and had some color in the set somewhere, quality 1+ct center stone, and that would fit on a 3.5 sized finger..lol I could not find all of that in an engagement ring in our price range (it would had to have been custom made) so I had to add the color in the wedding band and got a 1ct kite set solitaire to go with it. He liked the princess cut shape the best so we went with that…..so he had some input…lol
Post # 7
I initially wanted a halo or a solitaire with diamonds in the band, and I ended up getting a 1 carat solitare that I love love LOVE! Didn’t think it was my style before getting it. I guess I thought I wanted something fancier, but it’s better than I could have ever imagined – Sparkly, not too big, not too small, and timeless.
At the end of the day, I would have loved it regardless because he picked it out and put so much thought into making sure it was something I’d love. That made it the perfect ring 🙂
Post # 8
@ChelsBea: The only reason I even LOOKED at my ring when FH proposed was because I wasn’t sure it was actually happening. We had never talked about what my tastes were in rings, we did not pick it out together, etc…and it’s the PERFECT engagement ring for me. If I could design it, it would be this exact ring. Sometimes you just gotta let go and trust your FH (generic you, not specific you). I always felt that if I cared so much about what the ring looked like that I would say no if I didn’t get the “right one”, I didn’t care enough about the man behind that ring. MY opinion about ME, so nobody come at me.
Post # 9
Perhaps you need to add a poll option for “Having a ring doesn’t matter as long as he proposes but if he DOES get me a ring than I’m a little bit particular and like certain ring styles.” I know that’s really long, but something to that effect could get a few votes. I would vote for that.
Post # 10
Yes and no. I am extremely picky in what I like. I actually hate far more styles than I’m ok with, and there are very few that I can say I truly love. So in that sense I am very picky.
But, I would not have cared what ring I got. All that mattered was that he proposed in a heartfelt manner with a ring that he picked out for me. If it was a style that I didn’t like I would have been fine with it, because it isn’t the ring itself that matters.
Post # 11
I picked my ring and my stone. I told him exactly what stores I wanted to go to, and what settings I wanted to try, and this happened before we even decided to get legally married, lol.
Post # 12
I was particular about my ring. I appreciate you not using the word picky, because that really wasn’t it. The reality is I know my own tastes and found a ring that I loved, so FI was happy to go with that to make me happy (he likes it too, but I think he would have liked almost anything that he spent that much money on lol). I don’t think I would do well with a guy who wanted to pick my ring and then got me something I didn’t like at all. But then again, that’s probably why I’m with a guy who isn’t like that! To each their own 🙂 I love jewelry, especially rings, and can’t imagine wearing a ring on my finger for the rest of my life (and giving up that finger space/retiring another ring!) if I didn’t like the ring.
ETA: I cared mostly about the setting. We then got the center stone to be the best balance of size/quality that fit in the budget.
Post # 13
I was the one who ultimately chose my rings but I consulted him about stones and settings, and considered his input.
Post # 14
My first post (yay!). We are designing my ring together. I have always loved pears, but he used to hate them so we agreed on a cushion cut which we both love (since I’m wearing it he says me loving it is more important but I want him to be happy too). We went to a local jeweller and she told us that pears look larger and are cheaper so my BF quickly came around to the idea of a pear solitaire haha 🙂 can’t wait for it to be ready!
Post # 15
I’m picky about my ring, so he and I are going to go shopping together. Basically I’ll give him a few choices of what I do and don’t like and he can pick (although I have my eye on a certain moissanite that I’m very very strongly hinting at!)
Post # 16
I told him what I wanted all the way down to the cut, color, and clarity, lol. I was giving him specific ones I created online. But, eventually dialed it back to minimum qualities and band color.