Post # 258
you seem pretty incapable of being reasoned with, so i’ll leave my previous comments at that. i was not abused and my parents were not lazy. i am not a negative statistic. i have every reason to believe that if I lightly spank my child 5-6 times in their life, they will not have a negative outcome either.
i actually have a master’s degree in public health which required taking graduate level statistics classes, so I’m well aware of what types of data are easily studied, and what types are not. i believe spanking falls in the latter category. there are just too many factors that are too difficult to control for.
additionally, here is a link to an abstract of a paper that supports my point of view.
Post # 259
In my opinion it is never OK to hit a person of any age. Not only do I think it is ineffective (a child only doing something out of fear doesn’t really learn anything), but it also sets a terrible example. Statistics also show that children become more aggressive when spanked. http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1983895,00.html
I am honestly surprised at how many parents in this day and age support spanking.
Post # 260
i do not plan to spank. i am not 100% against it, but i am 99% against it. i’m trying hard to think up what that 1% is, but i just don’t know. dh is more open to it, but i always work on dissuading him against the idea. he is slowly coming to my side.
Post # 261
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In a pacific islander family getting smacked is a daily way of life. I was smacked with anything and everything when i was naughty (it definitely wasn’t often because i learnt my lesson lol). Jandals, fly swatters, wooden spoons, you name it! Now i am a parent myself i won’t be taking punishment that far ever. However. A tap on the hand is not going to do any harm, i wish i was smacked like that!
When my child is doing something naughty, constantly moved away from said object, and the child continuously goes back to it again and again after being told not to (like the rubbish bin, the road etc), i will smack a hand. My bark is really worse than my bite though, all i have to do is lower my voice to a growl and we have a well behaved child again. Ever tried to put a toddler in a naughty corner before? yeah it doesn’t work. They just get up and run off, they don’t understand the concept of a naughty corner yet.
Post # 262
I was spanked as a child. Never to excess and my parents were loving parents. But I found it even at the time an extremely ineffective punishment. It pissed me off, was emotionally manipulative on both ends, and there have been lots of studies on how spanking does not benefit the child the way you hope it might.
Post # 263
I was never spanked as a child and I was one of the most well behaved children I’ve ever known… I was very shy and never acted out anyway, which I know a lot of children aren’t. Certainly every child is different. But my parents did not find spanking under any circumstance necessary. My neighbor was a terror as a child and I know she was spanked and continued to be a terror. “The look” from my dad was enough to keep me in line haha. I learned respect at a young age by example. My parents used positive reinforcement pver punishment, which worked for me