(Closed) Are/Did You Tell Others When You Were TTC?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Are/Did You Tell Others When You Were TTC?
    Yes : (9 votes)
    30 %
    No : (8 votes)
    27 %
    I didn't talk to anyone about our TTC plans whatsoever : (9 votes)
    30 %
    Other (feel free to share below) : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we haven’t started yet, but I’ve been talking to a few people about our plans. mostly people who I truly trust to both keep it quiet and be supportive and who I’d vent to and look to for comfort if it does take awhile–like my mom and a few of my closest friends. I hear people say on here all the time not to tell anyone, but I feel like I need the encouragement and support of the people who I have told. I’m not like, blabbering about it to everyone I know, but I need a few people to talk through it with besides dh 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2226 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We told our moms because it made sense to keep them in the loop; my sister since she lives with us – it wouldn’t be fair to plan babies & not give her the chance to look at her option. best friend; and my best friend since she’s captaining my rugby team and would guilt me into playing otherwise.  Other than that, we’ve kept it to ourselves. When people ask we just say we’re thinking about it soonish.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I mentioned it to a couple of my best girlfriends when we first started. Mostly as chatter about effects or being off birth control.  We didn’t mention it to our families until we were having issues.  I think after about a year and we just didn’t want to hear the nagging anymore. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1401 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Some of my friends knew but Darling Husband put it in our wedding vows…lol

    Post # 7
    Member
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    When people ask or are curious about our plans, I tell them vaguely that we are waiting for another year or so…no immediate plans and no rush at all. When we do actually start (fall) I’ll tell only my sisters that we’re trying and possibly my closest girlfriends that I’m off BC. 

    I just feel like no one needs to know if we struggle or it takes longer than we want. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Mr. 99 have elected to opt out of the baby portion of life this time around…but I have been told one time that a couple was TTC…it was my brother and his wife…and since my brother and I work together, I see him every day….and it was really hard not to look at him in the morning and point dramatically at him as he walked in and say, “I know what you did last night!!!!” 

    Not to mention SUPER awkward….I also remember him coming into my office, looking all tired and wrung out after about two months of it and saying, “I’m getting kinda tired of putting out…”

    I just told him to take what he could get…parenthood is a WHOLE NEW GEAR!

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    When people asked us, we simply stated “we’ve stopped preventing, it’s in God’s hands, if it happens it happens, but we’re not going to take extreme measures to conceive.”  It kept them from asking every single stinking time what our “status” was.

    Post # 10
    Member
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    we did talk about it pretty openly. We are pretty open people in general. But now that it’s been 11 months I wish I never said a word. People ask all the time or any hint of me being tired or not feeling well people jump on it and guess that I’m Preggo. Its my own fault.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m very certain they will be asking. People are already asking and we aren’t even married. My response will be “when the time is right” or whatever. None of their business and i dont need that pressure. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2554 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My two friends that I tell everything to know our plans. I haven’t decided if I want to tell my parents yet. I usually share pretty much everything with them, especially my mom, but I’m not sure about this. Part of my wants to but part of me wants to just wait till I get the positive test!

    Post # 13
    Member
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No one has really asked about our plans in specifics that is close to us. But if it comes up we generally say something like “We have lots of time”

    Only one friend and my sis knew.

    Post # 14
    Member
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We *intended* to keep it to ourselves, but I can’t keep my darn mouth shut! I’ve told a few friends and a close coworker figured it out. We are, however, definitely keeping it from the families, I’m a fairly private person and I wouldn’t want them to know if we were struggling or had other issues. 

    The topic ‘Are/Did You Tell Others When You Were TTC?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors