Post # 1
People (especially DH’s family) keep asking when we’re planning to start TTC. The question itself doesn’t really bother me, but I don’t know if I want us to share when we’re thinking, mainly b/c what if it takes longer than we hoped for. I don’t really want others knowing if we’re having a hard time (I’m very private with that kind of personal stuff that I’d feel bad about even though I know I shouldn’t).
So, did you share that info? For those that took longer to get pregnant, did people continue to ask how it was going?
Post # 3
we haven’t started yet, but I’ve been talking to a few people about our plans. mostly people who I truly trust to both keep it quiet and be supportive and who I’d vent to and look to for comfort if it does take awhile–like my mom and a few of my closest friends. I hear people say on here all the time not to tell anyone, but I feel like I need the encouragement and support of the people who I have told. I’m not like, blabbering about it to everyone I know, but I need a few people to talk through it with besides dh
Post # 4
We told our moms because it made sense to keep them in the loop; my sister since she lives with us – it wouldn’t be fair to plan babies & not give her the chance to look at her option. best friend; and my best friend since she’s captaining my rugby team and would guilt me into playing otherwise. Other than that, we’ve kept it to ourselves. When people ask we just say we’re thinking about it soonish.
Post # 5
I mentioned it to a couple of my best girlfriends when we first started. Mostly as chatter about effects or being off birth control. We didn’t mention it to our families until we were having issues. I think after about a year and we just didn’t want to hear the nagging anymore.
Post # 6
Some of my friends knew but DH put it in our wedding vows…lol
Post # 7
When people ask or are curious about our plans, I tell them vaguely that we are waiting for another year or so…no immediate plans and no rush at all. When we do actually start (fall) I’ll tell only my sisters that we’re trying and possibly my closest girlfriends that I’m off BC.
I just feel like no one needs to know if we struggle or it takes longer than we want.
Post # 8
Mr. 99 have elected to opt out of the baby portion of life this time around…but I have been told one time that a couple was TTC…it was my brother and his wife…and since my brother and I work together, I see him every day….and it was really hard not to look at him in the morning and point dramatically at him as he walked in and say, “I know what you did last night!!!!”
Not to mention SUPER awkward….I also remember him coming into my office, looking all tired and wrung out after about two months of it and saying, “I’m getting kinda tired of putting out…”
I just told him to take what he could get…parenthood is a WHOLE NEW GEAR!
Post # 9
When people asked us, we simply stated “we’ve stopped preventing, it’s in God’s hands, if it happens it happens, but we’re not going to take extreme measures to conceive.” It kept them from asking every single stinking time what our “status” was.
Post # 10
we did talk about it pretty openly. We are pretty open people in general. But now that it’s been 11 months I wish I never said a word. People ask all the time or any hint of me being tired or not feeling well people jump on it and guess that I’m Preggo. Its my own fault.
Post # 11
I’m very certain they will be asking. People are already asking and we aren’t even married. My response will be “when the time is right” or whatever. None of their business and i dont need that pressure.
Post # 12
My two friends that I tell everything to know our plans. I haven’t decided if I want to tell my parents yet. I usually share pretty much everything with them, especially my mom, but I’m not sure about this. Part of my wants to but part of me wants to just wait till I get the positive test!
Post # 13
No one has really asked about our plans in specifics that is close to us. But if it comes up we generally say something like “We have lots of time”
Only one friend and my sis knew.
Post # 14
We *intended* to keep it to ourselves, but I can’t keep my darn mouth shut! I’ve told a few friends and a close coworker figured it out. We are, however, definitely keeping it from the families, I’m a fairly private person and I wouldn’t want them to know if we were struggling or had other issues.