Post # 1
granted one has the option to decline such an event if it is impossible/difficult to take time off. but in reality, particularly being family one can never gracefully do so. just think it’s a lot to expect of people, especially with this economy. comments?
Post # 3
I dont think its selfish at all. Like you said, considering the economy a bride and groom can save a ton of money on a friday or sunday wedding. I dont see a big deal, maybe thats just me.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t call them inconsiderate. I understand your frustrations about how sometimes its hard for those who are out of town to travel to a Friday wedding, but honestly travel is never convient (in my humble opinion).
Post # 5
Welcome to the boards.
I don’t want to be discouraging since you are so new, but what is the intention here? You are not asking a question, looking for advice, or referring to personal experience, nor did you label this a vent. I think a Friday bride could find this mildly upsetting.
Post # 6
I don’t think Friday weddings are being inconsiderate if everyone lives close by. I could see this being an issue if they are expecting a lot of people from out of town, but otherwise I think it could be a great way to cut back on things in the wedding
Post # 7
Uh, yea. I don’t see it being selfish at all. I plan to have a Friday wedding. It’s a day for my groom and I to celebrate. It’s fantastic if my loved ones can join us, but if they can’t. we will still enjoy our day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I don’t think Friday weddings are inconsiderate. I think complaining about them is, though. I hope you’re not bringing this up to the couple.
Post # 9
We carefully selected our day, which happens to be a Friday. If any of our potential guests feels as strongly about it as you obviously do, I’d love for them to tell me so I can leave them off the list.
Post # 10
Wow, as a Friday bride I find you calling it selfish really quite rude. I may be a little biased, but I didn’t exactly choose my date because I was trying to cut costs. I am saving a whole $500 dollars by having it on a Friday. Not exactly going to make or break my budget.
And you are right, people can absolutely decline to come if they find my wedding such a hassle, that they can’t make it to a 6pm ceremony. As far as our families go, we discussed it with them before we chose our date. And no one had a problem with it.
Oh and, as a former retail worker it isn’t like everyone has a Monday through Friday 9-5 work schedule. Your wedding will inconvenience someone, no matter what day it is on.
Post # 11
I’m having a Friday wedding that starts at 8:30pm, and if anybody is going to whine about it then they can stay the f%ck home.
I’m getting married at City Hall earlier in the day, and guess what? City Hall is only open M-F. Was I supposed to have my reception and public ceremony on a separate day? F that.
The only people we had decline were 3 out of town guests, out of maybe 10-11 total Out of Town guests that we invited.
Post # 12
I don’t think it is selfish at all. I think that couples should get married on whatever day/date they want to. If I wasn’t saving a ton of money by having my wedding on a Thursday, I would have had it on a Friday or a Saturday. The only thing that I looked at was my ring bearer’s school schedule. And I messed that up, but his mom said it will be fine. The people that are important to us will make an effort to come no matter what day/date is chosen.
Post # 13
Actually Friday and Sunday weddings are quite popular now and we see more and more of them at the hotel I work at…it saves the couple thousands of dollars and they love having it a weekend long event! if its not a good day for guests, then I guess others can be invited!
Post # 14
I think Friday weddings can be inconvenient and not ideal, but there are many circumstances that affect a couple’s choice of date… I’m sure most couples don’t choose to wed on Fridays or Sundays to be inconsiderate.
Post # 15
I don’t think it’s selfish at all. If I was having a Friday wedding and family members couldn’t get the day off of work for financial reasons I would understand and wouldn’t hold it against them.
Post # 16
I’m a Friday bride, but I don’t take offense to your question. I do think calling Friday weddings “selfish” is a bit harsh.
All weddings require people to take time off work and/or travel, even if they’re on a Saturday. Not everyone has off on the weekends, which means to attend a Saturday wedding, they’d still need to take off work.
People tend to leave work early on Fridays anyway 🙂 And there’s more weekend to spend with visiting friends and family. Also, it’s cheaper to travel on a Thursday! All potential positives. Plus, if you really want to be there, you’ll be there, even if it’s on a Tuesday.