(Closed) why choose a friday wedding? pros and cons?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I dont think its selfish at all. Like you said, considering the economy a bride and groom can save a ton of money on a friday or sunday wedding. I dont see a big deal, maybe thats just me.

Post # 4
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wouldn’t call them inconsiderate. I understand your frustrations about how sometimes its hard for those who are out of town to travel to a Friday wedding, but honestly travel is never convient (in my humble opinion).

Post # 5
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Welcome to the boards.

I don’t want to be discouraging since you are so new, but what is the intention here? You are not asking a question, looking for advice, or referring to personal experience, nor did you label this a vent. I think a Friday bride could find this mildly upsetting.

Post # 6
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think Friday weddings are being inconsiderate if everyone lives close by.  I could see this being an issue if they are expecting a lot of people from out of town, but otherwise I think it could be a great way to cut back on things in the wedding

Post # 7
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Uh, yea.  I don’t see it being selfish at all.  I plan to have a Friday wedding.  It’s a day for my groom and I to celebrate.  It’s fantastic if my loved ones can join us, but if they can’t. we will still enjoy our day. 

Post # 8
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I don’t think Friday weddings are inconsiderate. I think complaining about them is, though. I hope you’re not bringing this up to the couple.

Post # 9
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We carefully selected our day, which happens to be a Friday. If any of our potential guests feels as strongly about it as you obviously do, I’d love for them to tell me so I can leave them off the list.

Post # 10
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, as a Friday bride I find you calling it selfish really quite rude.  I may be a little biased, but I didn’t exactly choose my date because I was trying to cut costs.  I am saving a whole $500 dollars by having it on a Friday.  Not exactly going to make or break my budget.

And you are right, people can absolutely decline to come if they find my wedding such a hassle, that they can’t make it to a 6pm ceremony.  As far as our families go, we discussed it with them before we chose our date.  And no one had a problem with it.  

Oh and, as a former retail worker it isn’t like everyone has a Monday through Friday 9-5 work schedule.  Your wedding will inconvenience someone, no matter what day it is on.

Post # 11
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m having a Friday wedding that starts at 8:30pm, and if anybody is going to whine about it then they can stay the f%ck home. 

I’m getting married at City Hall earlier in the day, and guess what? City Hall is only open M-F. Was I supposed to have my reception and public ceremony on a separate day? F that.

The only people we had decline were 3 out of town guests, out of maybe 10-11 total Out of Town guests that we invited.

Post # 12
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think it is selfish at all. I think that couples should get married on whatever day/date they want to. If I wasn’t saving a ton of money by having my wedding on a Thursday, I would have had it on a Friday or a Saturday. The only thing that I looked at was my ring bearer’s school schedule. And I messed that up, but his mom said it will be fine. The people that are important to us will make an effort to come no matter what day/date is chosen.

Post # 13
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Actually Friday and Sunday weddings are quite popular now and we see more and more of them at the hotel I work at…it saves the couple thousands of dollars and they love having it a weekend long event! if its not a good day for guests, then I guess others can be invited!

Post # 14
2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think Friday weddings can be inconvenient and not ideal, but there are many circumstances that affect a couple’s choice of date… I’m sure most couples don’t choose to wed on Fridays or Sundays to be inconsiderate. 

Post # 15
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think it’s selfish at all. If I was having a Friday wedding and family members couldn’t get the day off of work for financial reasons I would understand and wouldn’t hold it against them.

Post # 16
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m a Friday bride, but I don’t take offense to your question.  I do think calling Friday weddings “selfish” is a bit harsh. 

All weddings require people to take time off work and/or travel, even if they’re on a Saturday.  Not everyone has off on the weekends, which means to attend a Saturday wedding, they’d still need to take off work.

People tend to leave work early on Fridays anyway 🙂  And there’s more weekend to spend with visiting friends and family.  Also, it’s cheaper to travel on a Thursday!  All potential positives.  Plus, if you really want to be there, you’ll be there, even if it’s on a Tuesday.


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