(Closed) why choose a friday wedding? pros and cons?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, I have to agree that your post is not very respectful. And as someone who is having a Friday wedding, I must say I’m a bit offended by your post. And it really has nothing to do with cost, as much as availablilty of the church that I wanted. You see, the church we are having our ceremony in is a very popular location and we had to enter a lottery to have our ceremony there and that is the date we ended up with. I know I don’t have to justify my reasons to you but I feel like you are generalizing things and should not do so without knowing why people pick certain dates. I agree with Lindsay in that if one of my guests has a problem with the date, then I won’t invite them. And I do, in fact, have lots of people coming from out of town since my FI’s family is out of state and they don’t seem to have a problem with it. They would probably have to come on Friday anyway even for a Saturday wedding.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t find Friday weddings rude at all.  I’m having a Sunday wedding which I suppose someone could also find selfish, but in our case it wasn’t to save money but because if you book an August wedding in my area at least 18 months in advance to get a Saturday!  We’re trying to do things like start a little earlier and end earlier 930) so out of town driving guests can get home (but most Out of Town people are a plane ride away…so no matter what, they are ‘inconvienced.)  I think as long as the couple try and be accomedating and understand that sometimes it is hard to come on Friday/Sunday, it’s fine.

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Friday bride here! 🙂  And proud of it – I’m TOTALLY doing it to cut costs!  In this bad economy, like YOU said….I’m trying my hardest to be able to afford this wedding!  If someone can’t go because it’s Friday and a bad economy – I will live!

 

However, if someone calls me selfish for having my wedding on a Friday – I DON’T WANT THEM TO COME!  

 

Have a nice day! 🙂

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

Wow.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I definitely don’t think it’s selfish. I also don’t agree with your sentiment that “there are ways to cut elsewhere” – for us, a Friday wedding was less than 1/2 the cost of a Saturday wedding – there is no way we could have ever cut that much money out of our budget from other places! 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think this person is just trying to stir the pot, there is no reason for this post.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just got invited to a Friday 3:00 wedding.  I feel that this bride understands that I might not be able to make it.  She might even be trying to limit the number of people who can come because of budgeting reasons.  To each their own.  If you care about the person, you will make it work, if you don’t, don’t go.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think it’s selfish at all.  And as you said, there’s always an option to decline. 

I’ve never considered attending a wedding an inconvenience (whatever day it is) because the moment I get an invitation, the first thing that comes into my mind is that I am so honored to be invited.  I once attended a good friend’s wedding on a thursday afternoon.  I was pretty honored considering that she only had 50 guests.  She chose that day because of her culture.  It’s supposed to be good luck to get married on a date that ends in 8 so she only had 3 days out of the whole moth to choose.  None of them fell on a weekend (and she wanted to get married that month before they move in to their new house).  So I called in sick and had a great time at her wedding! 🙂

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I, too, am having a Friday wedding. We did it to cut costs. FI and I talked to the important people in our lives to make sure that it would work for them. I don’t feel that we were being “selfish” I feel that we were considerate to the people that matter and if anyone on the guest list can’t make it, well that’s unfortunate but we accepted that when we decided to have a Friday wedding.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, I think we’re being just a wee bit hostile to the newbee…lets back off a little bit!

I wouldn’t go so far as to say its inconsiderate, but I understand her point about it being a little difficult on some guests to come to a Friday wedding. A friend of mine is getting married on a Friday, and all of our college friends are spread across the country. As her friends, we all really want to make it, but we all either work 9-5 jobs or are in school, so in order to come to her wedding we’ll have to take both Thursday and Friday off. For some, its just not going to be possible (but it would be if her wedding was on a Saturday.)

All of that being said, I would never complain to her about that. I’m thrilled and excited to be there for her wedding, and I completely understand why she chose that day.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Also to add a point, if a couple is having a Jewish wedding, they might not be able to get married on a Saturday, depending on if their Rabbi will work on Shabbat.

I do think it can be inconvenient to go to a wedding on a Friday or Sunday, but it doesn’t stop me from going.

Post # 28
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Busy bee

I think there are far worse things couples can do to guests. Like not having enough food or enough drink.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I completely agree with spaniel! I don’t think Friday weddings are inconsiderate, but I think complaining about them is.

Weddings are about the couple getting married, no one should have to justify their reasons for picking their wedding date, be it a Friday, Sunday, Wednesday, whatever. It’s a once in a lifetime thing. They can have it on any day they want without people accusing them of being inconsiderate — especially from guests (who have the option of declining)!

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

that’s a bold statement to make. it’s not like you’re throwing a PARTY for THEM. the last thing i would be thinking about when picking my wedding date is “oo i wonder if they’ll think a friday night wedding is inconsiderate? ya know what they probably will, i’ll take a saturday wedding for an extra $4,000 instead.” you should be careful what you say on here you don’t know who you’re offending.

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hmm yeah, not sure of the point of this post. Especially since the OP hasn’t come back to explain her position further.

As a Friday bride, I don’t think that I’m being rude to my guests by inviting them to my wedding. If they can come, great. If not, I understand. That’s a risk you run no matter what day you have your wedding–there are always going to be people who are not able to attend.

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