- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So, we decided to combine these. I chose the song (since FI does not care about this kind of thing). The song I chose is Just Breathe by Pearl Jam.
I chose this song because it reminded me of a moment when my dad was in the hospital dealing with cancer. AFter that moment my relationship with my dad has completely changed (for the good).
I emailed my FI’s mom to tell her about the song, and told her that since she is also a cancer survivor that this is probably appropriate for her as well.
apparently she hasn’t told a lot of people about her battle with cancer. Yes, that is her choice. BUT, it’s not like this song screams “THIS SONG IS ABOUT SOMEONE WITH CANCER”. It’s a nice song. But now she is worried about it. I think mainly because my FI didn’t choose one specifically for them. Which, is not his thing so I think she should respect that.
I did ask him about how he felt about the song and he thought it was fine. ALso, I chose it BEFORE I knew it was a song about someone going through cancer.
Now what? My FI has to think about whether or not he wants a different song for him and his mom.
AND she is also all worried about someone wearing the same colour dress as her. I made sure all mothers –including FI’s dad’s wife–knew what everyone is wearing. But I can’t control what other guests wear!
So many little issues that should not be issues.