Post # 1
Maybe its the fact that I was the perpetual single for what seemed like ages. Or the fact that my Fiance and I have been doing the “long” (2.5 hours away) distance relationship for about a year. But I just cannont comprehend these certain people. These certain people are the ones that seem to not be able to function when they’re not around their SO. IT drives me UP the wall!
Here’s and example of something that happened to me. I ask a person, “hey you wanna go to the movies?? I’m bored!” Their immediate response “can soandso come?” I mean I never say no but I always say well I just wanted to spend some girl time together. They get all whiney, I give in, and I end up being a third wheel on a date that was never supposed to be a date!
Why do I feel like I’m the only person in a relationship that can function outside of that relationship? Anyone else feel like me?
Post # 3
I think once people become a couple, they forget that they are also INDIVIDUALS!
It’s okay to do things “alone”…..
Post # 4
@Woodstock: I haven’t run across that issue as most of my friends are either single or do not at all mind doing things without their SOs. I can definitely see how that would get annoying though, especially if it is every time you want to hang out with them.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I totally feel you, and Mr. HC and I definitely do things without one another (even travel a bit) and it’s totally fine, and I happen to very independent, but I will say this – Mr. HC works an insane amount of time as a surgery resident and often spends nights or weekend days at the hospital – with precious little time together, it’s hard to sometimes choose to leave him alone at home and go do something on the occasion that he is out early, etc. It turns out that I have a lot of flexibility to do things on my own since he does work, but it definitely makes me strongly consider making plans when he is around, if he is not included. Just a thought!
Post # 6
It’s not all of my friends but a good chunk of them. When I talk to others about it they just say. Awww its love. I’m sorry.. I think what they mean to say is an unhealthy dependancy. I’m in love but I most certainly can make time to go hang out with my besties.. without the Fiance…
Post # 7
@hermitcrab: I agree with you.
Darling Husband has a very busy work schedule so when he is home/around I do like to try and spend time with him. But in his less busy time we can very easy do our own things on certain nights.
Could it be that these friends have SOs with really busy schedules? And they otherwise wouldn’t be able to spend very much time with them but for inviting them along to “girls outings”?
Post # 8
@hermitcrab: I completely understand! That’s how it is when I do get to see my Fiance. We spend our time together. But these are people living together that have 9-5 jobs. lol