(Closed) Argh, stop telling me what to do!

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Me!  Me!

When I registered for Dirty Delete (who is now 9 months old) I asked my Mom if I needed a wipe warmer.  She said they were just a gadget, totally not necessary, and I would do fine without it.

Sounded good to me.

So now, she decided to lecture me on not having a wipe warmer.  Said it was cruel and I was freezing the baby.  Who by the way, totally doesn’t care, because she’s been doing just fine for the past nine months.

I was so irritated, I counted to ten and it wasn’t enough!

Post # 4
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve mastered the polite smile and nod. Sometimes I can dig a little gem of “good to know” info out of whatever someone is saying, but for the most part, I just let people feel like they’ve done their good deed for the day and move along. It’s SO annoying though, I agree.

Topics I’ve learned to avoid:
– If someone asks “What hospital are you going to?” I just tell them where our midwives are registered and skip mentioning that we’re talking about having a home birth. It’s not lying because they ARE registered with that hospital and we could end up going, I’ve always said I reserve the right to change my mind 😉
– Diapers. We’re probably going to do cloth diapers which a bunch of our friends are doing and loving, I know it’s coming back “into style” if you will, but you’d think I told my mother I wanted to wrap my baby in asbestos. Not talking about diapers anymore.
– Breastfeeding. Mostly because women in my life who like to talk about it seem to be women who have had a lot of trouble with it and their stories scare the heck out of me, so for my own sanity, I’m trying to avoid talking about it and when I need help I’ll ask.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ll play! 

I’m still pretty early in the 1st trimester and not many people know. I was a little nauseous this morning and couldn’t eat breakfast. I was talking with one of my best friends (who’s very opinionated, never been pregnant) and told her I didn’t eat breakfast and she said “UH OH, that’s nutrients for you’re baby, you MUST eat a good meal all the time!!!” 

uhm… thanks, but if I barf it up the nutrients is going in the toilet and not to my baby so…. shut up.

Post # 6
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh I thought of another. I got lectured about wearing sunscreen. In general, but also just how much more horrible of a human I’m being by wearing it while pregnant. Sunscreen…. Yep I still slap on my moisturizer with sunscreen built into it every day.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Mrsluckywife:  Oh gosh, I haven’t shared my pregnancy news with anyone yet but I can’t WAIT (sarcasm) for the unwanted advice that comes with that otherwise happy occasion :/

My step-grandma told me tonight when I turned down a drink because “we are TTC…”,, “oh, I drank a bit when I was pregnant and my kids are just fine. The best cure for nausea is a wine spritzer!”   lol thanks but I think I’ll be passing on that bit of advice.

A little off topic but I did catch a lot of sh*t before we were TTC, when people found out ‘all we were using’ was the withdrawal method. One aunt of mine went straight up crazy for a while, I would come over and she’d be crying and there would be a ‘fetal alcohol syndrome caused by drinking during conception’ article waiting for me on the kitchen table. “Ohhh my god you’re a bad mother already, how can you have a pre-dinner cocktail, you aren’t using protection, you could be pregnannnt!” Kind of can’t wait to rub it in their faces that we used withdrawal exclusively for 3 years and then got pregnant on the first try without it, following my self-imposed pre-conception month of sobriety. Guess withdrawal works when done properly, also, SUCK it, busybody family members! haha.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am 5w1d and haven’t told anyone yet other than my husband.  I basically assume I will have to stop talking to my mother and my Mother-In-Law once I announce the news.  They will drive me crazy with inane suggestions.  They already do this with other details.  Newsflash: If your suggestions are useful less than 50% of the time, you should stop making suggestions.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Thankfully the only person who has given me unwanted advice is Mother-In-Law.  She’s a know-it-all anyway and thinks that everything I’m doing (or have done) is wrong since it’s not how she did it 20+ years ago.  I love being able to tell her that my doctors have all said something different than what she says and I’ll be going by their advice instead.  

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