(Closed) Argh….vent regarding sexual innuendoes clothing on babies!

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree OP – I once saw a 3 year old boy wearing a shirt that said “I’m sexy and I know it” and thought it was beyond disturbing. And no, I am not some crazy Mommy-shamer/judger but I personally think as a society we are doing way more harm by putting shirts about BJ’s and booze on infants/toddlers then we are by cringing (most of us silently) when we see them…

Post # 33
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Newbee

my father got my 11month old a bob Marley shirt. Granted he really does love bob, he’s always been a really straight laced guy. They were hippy, Ecco friendly types when I was a child but I never would have been allowed to wear a shirt like that. Just in case people got the wrong idea. Now I can’t help but think it’s not ok on my kid. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Skittles131:  Hm I still don’t see that specific phrase in that way. But I still take your overall point well. 

Post # 35
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Newbee

Skittles131:  I promise you this won’t even be on your mind when you have your baby. I said a lot of the same things you did and the only one that’s choosing overtly boy clothes around here is my son. I’ve also given him a choice of what he wants to play with and the only thing he’s ever used a doll for is to slam it against the wall. It scared me so I put the doll away. Now I know better. My son likes boy stuff. He like to pretend fight and he loves it When his cousins have guns or swords he doesn’t have at home. And you know what became important to me? To let him do what he wants. I don’t know why I never considered that some kids like the stereotypes. They are there for a reason. I for one am done trying to look for the 1 or 2 options at every store that is gender neutral. If he wants all his shirts to have tmnt or batman or superman on it then fine. Hopefully my next kid will also love the same things because with my luck I’ll have to re-purchase everything. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

kate02121:  I agree with you, I don’t necessarily see “Lock up your daugthers” as sexualized or rape-y.  I actually take it as, “I will melt their hearts with my adorableness and they will never want to leave me from their sight.”

Then again, I was also repriminded the other day for telling someone to come with me for ice cream and saying “I know you want it,” because that phrase supports rape culture.  I might just be very out of tune with reality.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

I find clothing with writing on it is just something I avoid in general. It doesn’t appeal to me. I’m not talking about college apparel or sports apparel, but blatant advertizing or messages on clothing, even if they aren’t necessarily “sexualized”. But that’s my opinion. I’ve seen some funny messages on onsies but I would never put my child in them. It’s a baby not a message board.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  Katie-Didnt.
Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think that I find the overtly ‘sexy’ little girl clothes more disturbing than the tacky captions. Darling Husband and I went to get swimsuits for our 8-month-olds and there were more bikinis than one-pices. I mean, it’s not like I’m worried that they’re actually being immodest, it’s more the fact that their clothing is mimicking a way of dressing that a lot of self-respecting adult women wouldn’t be caught dead in (leopard print booty shorts and plastic pink halter top, anyone?). I just think there’s not much good that can come of encouraging toddlers and grade schoolers to dress like hookers. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Apple_Blossom:  Yup, that’s how I take that one as well. 

“I love boobies” and implications about the parents having had sex to make the baby, not so much. 

Post # 40
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Skittles131:  I think you are reading WAY to much into the clothing.  That is just like OMG dont let your children watch Disney movies or play with princesses or let little boy play with dolls.  They are children. As a parent it is our duty to guide them a few shirts that say sayings as “lock up your daughters” is meant to be funny.  One shirt isnt going to make a difference.  My son plays with a pink stroller meant for dolls, he freaking loves that thing.  Does that make him more feminie? He loves to play with a hand me down kitchen set from his girl cousin.  He is 2.5 sorry some silly shirt isn’t going to make or break him. 

It is for myself and my Darling Husband to mold him into a fine young man who treats men and women with respect.  Not his clothing or what he plays with.  

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Sassygrn:  I dunno, about 10% of child pornography is with infant under one year old. Given that fact, anything that normalizes the sexualization of babies is a horrible idea.

I think parents do it because a baby being sexual is a total oxymoron to them, and this is somehow comical to them, but they have to realize there are people around to whom it is not an oxymoron. 

Post # 43
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sassygrn:  yes it’s the parents responsibility to mold their child into a decent adult and a shirt isn’t going to do any harm if the parent is doing a good job. But, I’d be interested to see if certain types of parents are more likely to put their kids in those clothes…

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I saw a store with “pretty like mommy” for girls and “smart like daddy” for boys. What’s wrong with “smart like mommy?” It’s like, she can’t even talk yet and we’re already labeling her appearance as her most important trait.

I would be fine with “I’m cute” clothes for either gender, I just found the juxtaposition a little odd.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Normajean951:  It will be on my mind. If we have a baby girl and someone gives her a pink onesie with sparkles and sequins all over it that says “I’m a spoiled pretty princess” I would politely thank them and then return it. Same if we have a baby boy and someone gives him a “I’m a tough sexy studmuffin” onesie. I don’t know why I’d stop thinking those clothes are stupid just because the baby is now born.

Sassygrn:  I don’t think the clothing is actually going to mold my child’s personality. I just think it’s trashy and inappropriate. I think it says more about me as the parent since I choose what my baby wears. Like “Daddy just wanted a BJ”  is seriously not cool with me.

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