(Closed) Arghhh! I'm technically obese. Worried about December wedding. (PICS)

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Post # 17
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

ne11y23:  I never look at my BMI, it’s a load of crap. Did you know most athletes are also ‘obese’ or even ‘morbidly obese’ due to their muscle mass? BMI does not take muscle density, bone structure, race, age or gender into consideration. I know a lot of doctors who completely dismiss BMI as it serves no real purpose to the individual. 

Post # 18
2347 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

ne11y23:  Hips and curves make the woman.  I think I’m on the “overweight” side at 5’5″, 140lbs.  Look at the stock photo of my gown on the model – I like it MUCH better on myself b/c I think I fill it out more.  I wouldn’t worry about a thing if I were you!  


Post # 19
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

ne11y23:  Oh, BMI is the most annoying and problem-loaded indicator of weight/health/diet-progress that there is – I feel your pain. I’ve been there before myself and found it particularly stressful that it was partly medication related, as it felt like I had less control.

Obese is not a word that should be in your vocabularly, ok? Let’s just retire that word until at least January!! It doesn’t remotely apply to you. I think you look fantastic and you honestly have a great figure. Curves in all the right places, a flat tummy, and nice arms. These qualities will serve you extremely well in a wedding dress (at your current weight or a bit higher or lower – whatever happens) and you will be a stunning bride.

I too struggled to motivate myself on the exercise front. In the end, I found the thing I could always get myself to do was go for an easy 30 minute flat walk every other day or so. I’m not a morning person and never had the energy to get changed and do a sweat-inducing heavy duty bout of cardio in the evenings after work, but a walk I could muster, and I was amazed at what a difference it made. I always assumed if I wasn’t in severe physical distress, the exercise wouldn’t count, but I was so wrong. If you’re able to work it in to your day, it might help alleviate some of the stress about the medication side effects. If not, who cares – you look freakin’ great πŸ™‚

Post # 20
8440 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

ne11y23:  I still stand by my first statement, even with the arch nemesis shorts πŸ˜‰

Post # 21
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You’re lucky enough to have a very well proportioned body – well balanced curves with a small waist. Im sure that you’ll look great for your wedding day. If you do decide to lose weight, don’t get overly focused on the numbers – look in the mirror and decide what works for you and your body. 

Post # 22
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

my BMI is almost obese as well, and my measurements are 36-26-42.  Those critical ten obese lbs are all hanging off my butt πŸ˜‰


Eff a bunch of BMI. Seriously. You look great.

Post # 23
7778 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you look perfectly fine! The good news is you don’t need to change! But even if you wanted to- your wedding is far enough away that you have plenty of time to make any changes you want to!

Post # 24
325 posts
Helper bee

ne11y23: Just an FYI, this is considered “borderline overweight” by BMI standards. I work out and weightlift at least 5 times of week, my fat percentage is in the “athlete zone”, and also eat mostly Paleo. So, yeah, BMI is an awful gauge of one’s health. I saw a post by an athlete. And at 5’10” and 170lbs+, she is also labeled as “borderline overweight” by BMI standards. And, she has an amazing physique. As my awesome M.D. put it, “BMI charts are brutal… And also don’t apply to half of the population”. 

I think you look great! And, I would never look at you in public and think twice about your weight. Ever. If you want to be healthier, do it for you. However, I def don’t think it will be necessary to change your body for your wedding. You are going to look amazing as you are now.

Post # 25
130 posts
Blushing bee

You’re hardly obese. BMI measurements are very misleading. Try to go by how feel not by bmi

Post # 26
5224 posts
Bee Keeper

ne11y23:  You are curvy and gorgeous! You could totally rock a glamourous, old hollywood inspired gown. Screw the BMI charts. They are so off most of the time. I have a girlfriend who is considered over weight from damn chart, and she is super toned and smokin’ hot. No one in a million years would consider her overweight.

Post # 27
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

ne11y23:  I think we have basically the exact same figure – although if anything you look slimmer in the hips than me! And I know exactly how you’re feeling – BMI can really screw you up and I know having seem myself on the BMI chart I’ve never been able to get over the fact that I’m ‘obese’. It’s caused me a lot of upset, although it’s largely self-inflicted, given as I have the self-control of a stoned labrador around food. Which perhaps makes it worse, haha, I’ve no-one to blame but myself.


But what I can say to you, and mean 100%, that I can’t say to myself, is that you look great! You don’t look overweight at all, you look like you’re in great shape, with a normal, healthy physique. If you want to exercise, great, it can’t hurt you, but you don’t need it, you look wonderful!

Post # 28
1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

According to the BMI I’m obese, too. But I’m a six foot tall amazon of a woman with broad shoulders and very muscular legs. I’m at the gym three days a week and in better physical health than my rather thin husband, who weighs less than I do but doesn’t have my stamina when it comes to physical activity.

BMI is a tool to act as guidelines, not the end all be all.

Post # 29
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Um, no, you do not look obese!  BMI measurements do not not factor in the weight of muscle vs. the weight of fat.  Here is something interesting…my husband and I were looking at our “ideal” weights on the BMI chart recently.  My husband is 6 feet and 165 lbs–very slim/trim/runner type body.  According to the chart he can be down to 138 lbs and still be in the ideal weight!!  I would NEVER want to see him at that weight–he’d look completely skeletal! 

Another example is my brother who is a bodybuilder (natural…so no drugs).  He is about 5’7″ and weighs about 190.  According to the chart, he is “obese” but he is ALL muscle.  He’s won state and regional competitions for crying out loud! 

So anyway, I wouldn’t put much thought into the BMI chart πŸ™‚

Post # 30
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OK Lets just get one thing straight here… you are NOT obese. 100%. As others have said BMI is such a wishy washy indicator of health. Everyones bone density, muscle mass etc are different, so take comfort in the fact you are not obese. 

Next thing… I don’t think you “need” to do anything to look ok for your wedding, you will look absolutely stunning exactly as you are, but as a fellow person who has lost weight (about 3 stone myself) I do know the feeling of not being happy as you are and wanting to change for you to feel better about yourself.. jsut make sure the reason you are doing it is for you and not for anybody else πŸ™‚


You absolutely can do something about it by december and no drastic things are needed (IMHO that is never a good way to lost wight). I lost weight in about the 6m before my wedding. I literally cut out crap, ALL crap. No soda, no cakes, no chocolate and filled myself up with protein and veggies. Don’t cut out carbs… you need them for energy and they also help digestively… trust me haha!! It took me about a week to get past my insane cravings for junk, and after that I was ok πŸ™‚


FYI I went from 12st 8lbs to about 10st 8lbs in that time, and now I am around 9st 10lbs – 9st 13lbs and happy πŸ™‚ I have maintained this now for about 2 years by just eating balanced, not disallowing myself anything but eating in moderation.


Good luck!!

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