(Closed) Arghhh! I'm technically obese. Worried about December wedding. (PICS)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

 

doeydo:  You may not sound creepy, but you do sound pretty douche-y. You basically just called hundreds of bees “not hot” based off of their body size, most of which a) can’t help, or b) work hard to keep the weight off. Would you ever say that about a fat person? Probably not. If you had, I probably wouldn’t been the first person to just now be commenting about it. No one even asked about skinny versus curvy, so to me it comes across as insecurity on your part.

An unfortunate but popular slogan right now is “Real women have curves”, but I say “real women don’t shame other women’s bodies”.

The nerve and lack of class for some people. I can’t imagine coming on here and saying “your body size is not hot”.

ETA: You have a right to your own opinion which I fully support. But come on, show a little class.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by  mdcmod.
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

You look fine! 🙂 Though, to feel better about yourself you could def lose some weight before then but don’t focus too much on the scale (as hard as it can be). At my lowest i was still considered overweight even though I was a size 3- screw bmi!

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

doeydo:  

Post # 49
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Helper bee

mdcmod:  I was speaking as a bisexual woman and that was my opinion.  Women are constantly bombarded by society and media to think that there is one type of beauty: a stick thin woman, or a stick thin woman with fake titts and ass.  Sorry, but personally I don’t find that type of body good looking whatsoever.  OP is a beautiful woman and is probably one of millions who think they aren’t beautiful or “good enough”, meanwhile they are perfect and jawdropping just the way they are.  

Post # 50
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Newbee

I would just recommend the obvious, exercise, it is amazing what toning up can do for your look even if you don’t lose much weight and exercise will benefit you even if you are outside of your weight range. And try to replace the wine with water more often, after awhile you get use to drinking a lot of water, just becomes second nature.

I have no idea why anyone would think you’re pregnant nor why any grown woman would be so uncouth as to ask that question. It’s just a don’t go there question, you wait until someone tells you they are pregnant.

Your face is hidden a bit, but I can see you have nice, attractive features and bone structure which is great cuz weight gain or weight loss, your features are your features regardless.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ne11y23:  look, I am as critical about my weight as the next woman. Well probably more than most if I’m honest. I freak out if  on the wrong side of a certain number but even then, I never stop the wine and just moderate the cake because um, life, it’s short and should be enjoyed. 

I’m sorry to hear about your health problems, but I have to say you look totally wow! Your body is absolutely stunning and lush. 

Not only that, but you have a wonderful, supportive husband-to-be and will look so beautiful on your wedding day 

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee

Don’t get crazed about numbers. You have a beautiful, statuesque womanly figure and I’m sure your wedding gown will be stunning.

Paleo is GREAT for women like us with thyroid issues. I WAS morbidly obese a year ago, and I’ve lost 80 pounds with faithful Paleo eating and mild activity.

Be sure that you are keeping your salt consumption to a healthy minimum. I omitted added salt, all “white” foods, dairy, and all grain. I have NEVER felt better.

Be sure you are doing what is best and works best FOR YOU!!!!!!

Post # 53
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ignore the BMI crap, it doesn’t work for everybody and doesn’t take into account stuff like muscle weight so its irrelevant for atheletes and yea like pps said, baloney

Post # 54
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

ne11y23:  Really if you are obeses then what the hell am I a whale? And I am a plus size woman.  Please be happy with yourself you are beautiful!

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

wow you don’t even look overweight! i wouldn’t worry about it as long as you are eating relatively healthily and working out a few times a week

Post # 56
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Are you overeating? some people who are on special diets (like paleo) actually feel deprived from the restriction on foods so they over eat what’s allowed to compensate. Try eating when you are hungry and stopping when you not hungry instead of stopping when you are full.  Don’t snack or drink sugary stuff in between meals. This alone should lose you 10-20 lbs, if not more. Eat the foods you enjoy in moderation, like half of what you used to eat, listen to your body.  Don’t worry about exercising to loss weight, it’s highly inefficient for weight loss, think of exercise as a means of making your heart and joints healthy. It all begins and ends with the amount you eat.

Post # 57
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Helper bee

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Please ignore my daft pose it’s rather embarassing but I am to “Obese” accorrding to my hieght/BMI check. I say f*ck it. My SO is crazy about my body, my doctor may not be but he doesnt see me naked. <br /><br />You don’t look like you need to lose any wieght to me for your Dec wedding. If you do decide to lose wieght, do it because you want to not some crappy BMI chart tells you to do so. x

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

No way you look obese!  I would guess maybe 160lbs?  And your figure is really hot!   Work it!  If you’re worried about weight loss I would cut out all alcohol 3 months before the wedding.  You would be amazed at what that can do for your skin and body

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

ne11y23:  Based on the pictures you posted, I assure you that unless you volunteer the information, no one will look at you and think, “she’s obese”.

Between now and December you can lose weight if you want, but I’d say the main issue now is to get the whole “I’m obese” thing out of your mind.

Post # 60
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I think that you look great but I understand how the scale can nag at you. About 4 years ago after going through some medical things which caused me to gain weight (and you know, a love of food) I decided to really pay attention to what I ate. <br /><br />I used http://www.myfitnesspal.com and went from 200+lbs to 135 in 8 months. I hate salad and love pizza. I still ate in resteraunts and ate the food I loved. I just kept portions in mind and budgeted calories like all brides budget weddings 🙂 The site is free and if the number on the scale (or BMI) will make you more confident on your big day and honeymoon then try it out!

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