- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My husband had this issue when we first started dating. He didnt ask me to delete them/block them though. I told him that I would speak to my friends as I wanted, I was not flirting or cheating, and I did not hang out with them behind his back. I was not going to end friendships over anyone. There was one ex he was particularly sensitive about, and I was very open about any contact between us (a few texts – dude lives in a different city, I sometimes run in to him when I visit, otherwise we don’t see each other). He even tried to “prove a point” by deleting all his exes. But my friends have often always been male. I told him if he couldnt handle that, then we wouldnt work out.
If your husband had no relationships before you, maybe he can’t comprehend that people can break up and remain friends. That isnt YOUR problem. Trying to prevent someone from contacting friends is the first sign of controlling behavior. Not saying you should leave over it, but he is being insecure and ridiculous (and, in my experience, often when someone is very accusatory of someone else cheating – it’s because they already are). But you’ve given in before so why would he give up now?
Does he have any female friends on Facebook? Does he ever like their statuses or pictures or comment on them? How do you know they don’t have crushes on him? DOes he even realize how ridiculous he sounds? You could probably be more sensitive to his feelings about it, but I do not think you should have ever blocked anyone or block this person.
Perhaps some counseling is in order for you both to help work this out.