(Closed) Arguing about vet care :(

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Deejayelle:  I wouldn’t make my dog stay overnight if it wasn’t necessary. Not to mention – you’re going to get charged a TON for an overnight stay. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Ummmm I would just lay down the law! There’s no reason for the dog to stay and every reason for him to come home. Seriously – tell your partner that the dog is coming home, and if he has a problem with it, HE can go stay somewhere else. 

I know this post is just a small vignette into your life, but he really came across as being overly controlling. Does he refuse to compromise and:or tell you what to do frequently? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Get your dog some pain medication (tramadol is good for dogs) and take him home after surgery. If he’s not in pain he won’t cry. Insist on the medication. You won’t need much.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

If I were in this situation, I would be at the vet office during the surgery (or when I knew it would be finished), and when they say “okay, he can go home!” I would take him home. 

If your partner is going to bar the door and physically prevent you from bringing the dog home, run. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

dog care is a lot like child care. it’s a team effort. it sounds like you guys need to really need to figure out a way to compromise. 

our dog needed emergency stitches a few months ago and Fiance brought him to the vet ER, and they insisted he stay overnight because they had to give him anesthesia. we were a little worried about it, mostly because the anesthesia freaked me out, but it was best for the dog. trust you vet’s advice. if they want the dog to stay, let him stay. they’re the experts. and most places have overnight care (ours had someone checking on them, if not working there all night).

Post # 7
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Busy bee

and i reread that and see that you aren’t really happy with the vet’s office – is there a way to postpone the proceedure and get a second opinion?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

If the vet recommends your dog come home the same day, your dog should come home the same day. Staying over at the vet is stressful and expensive, and if you can avoid it, you should. 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Deejayelle:  I really feel for you! Surgery is a scary thing and it’s even scarier if you don’t trust those doing it. As a current vet student, I say if you don’t feel comfortable with your vet, please go to another one that makes you feel comfortable. However, if you are only uncomfortable because the veterinarian is inexperienced, I will tell you that new graduates are often more careful than those who have done this hundreds of times. They are often supervised as well. 

As for staying after surgery, it depends on the vet. Some will have a technician check in the night, some will have no one, and some will have someone there the whole time. You should ask which they have to make an informed decision on whether to leave him overnight. My guess is that your partner doesn’t want to watch him groggy because it’s hard to see as doggy parents. They best place for your puppy is with someone that can watch him for any changes and make him comfortable. If the vet thinks he is stable enough to go home, it’s probably for the best. 

If you are concerned about him coming home in pain or groggy, try to have his surgery as early in the morning as possible and pick him up when they close for the night. I feel like this is the best of both worlds. Hopefully by the time you pick him up, most of his anesthesia meds will be out of his system and he won’t be too groggy except for his pain meds. He can be monitored all aftenoon as there will be people there, and then you can take him home and watch him that night. 

I really hope you can figure out the best option for all of you that makes you all comfortable!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If the vet said he can go home after that should be the final say. 

I hope you reported the nurse for her behavior that is so out of line.

Don’t worry that the vet is new! They wouldn’t let her do anything is they didn’t have full trust in her.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m a night tech at an equine hospital but we routinely do cryptorchid surgeries. As far as I know it’s a very simple surgery that you do want to have done. When we have a patient overnight I regularly check the incision, make sure they’re comfortable, give a little food once theyve woken up and draw up any meds they need for the morning. Honestly they’re some of my easiest patients because they don’t need more than that, they stay one night and leave.

if your vet clears them to go home then that’s what Id do. Try and see if they can do an early surgery and you can do the latest pickup possible. Then that may be a compromise? He gets monitored as long as possible but you get to keep him overnight. I know it looks scary when they’re not themselves but they’re just groggy.

I understand his point of view though, and maybe if they have a night tech you can let him stay overnight, but if not then there’s no point and you could take better care of him. I DO think you should find a vet you’re comfortable with though. There’s so many good ones out there, there’s no need to distrust the one youre using. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

One of my dogs almost died from being spayed at my vets office because no one was there overnight.  The girl who was closing up the office after everyone else had gone home went in to turn off the lights and noticed that my pup had managed to pull out all of her stitches and was in the process of bleeding to death.  She called the vet at home and he was able to come in and put her back together.  If that one employee had not been paying close attention, or if my dog had waited another hour to pull her stitches out, my dog would have likely not lived through the night.  Never again.  Whenever one of my dogs needs a surgical procedure that requires an overnight stay, they will be going to the vet in the city that is staffed overnight.  The next time I have to get a dog spayed (or any other surgery where the overnight stay is recommended but not required), I will insist on taking my dog home where I can monitor her and bring her to the emergency vet if something goes wrong.  Also, you should be able to choose the vet who does surgery on your dog.  Ask about them about this rather than trust information from rumors and gossip.  If they are not willing to provide you with the care you want, then look elsewhere.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Im not saying you should keep him there overnight nor that he should come home but I am fairly sure that if there are animals staying overnight at a vets then someone will be there with them. I can’t imagine there being absolutely nobody around overnight – what if there was an emergency?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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pearlrose: Ive just read what you wrote about there being an unmanned vets overnight and that really shocks me. Obviously I believe you but I just cannot believe that vets can exist with sick animals staying overnight and no one is there to keep an eye on them.

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