- 2 weeks ago
First off, I know I will probably get a fair amount of hate on this post since it will probably sound like I am a dog hater – which is actually very far from the truth. I have always loved dogs, until my husband’s dog came into my life. I have been reading posts and noticed that i am not the only person in the world that deals with this issue, but in my day to day life, it doesn’t make things much easier.
My husband has had a dog, we will call him Cookie, for several years before meeting me. The dog is about 10 years old now. The dog is very possessive over my husband, and when he doesn’t like someone, he lets them know. Apparently when my husband got him he took a while to warm up to him too, as well as his parents but now he absolutely loves both my husband, and my in-laws. But I read over the vet notes from when my husband first got him, and it described the dog running behind things and showing his teeth at people. So yes, he probably picks up on the fact that I dislike him, but he doesn’t help matters at all.
My husband got the dog when he was an adult, about 3 years old. His last owner died. My husband did not know much about “Cookie” when getting him, besides that the family did not want to take the dog because he barked all the time – which he still does. He was also told that the dog was eating McDonald’s on a regular basis and would not eat dog food at first.
My husband has grown up with dogs, but honestly is just not the best dog owner. He has not put any effort into training the dog. He has never walked him. “Cookie” does not walk on a leash. He barks at all hours of the night. He has never been crated and basically thinks he rules the roost. He is hairy and smelly and goes on the furniture. When i moved in, the dog slept in my husband’s bed, and i asked him to compromise and let Cookie sleep in his own bed, next to our bed instead of in our bed. He is 80 pounds. However, I had to ask my husband to also compromise on that, because Cookie snores so loud, and I am an extremely light sleeper and would be up all night hearing the snoring. I thought, i finally had a man who didn’t snore, i was not about to lose sleep over a snoring dog. Sorry. I even tried a sound machine, but after 28 years of sleeping in dead silent, i couldn’t adjust. My husband wasn’t thrilled, and neither was Cookie, who barked at our door for the first several nights, but he eventually got used to it and now sleeps on a dog bed, in the living room. Imagine that!
Cookie and I have never bonded well at all. I feel terrible saying this, but I actually strongly dislike Cookie. I could even say I hate him, I know, it’s terrible. Trust me, I wonder if I am a terrible person because of feelings I have towards an innocent animal. But this dog does not have any likeable traits that I have found. He is extremely anxious acting, mainly around me – he does not let me get anywhere near him, he won’t let me pet him, he can barely be in the same room as me and when I walk towards him he barks at me and shows his teeth. He has nipped at me 3 times, twice in the hand and once in the foot when i walked into MY bedroom, it was dark, I didn’t know he was in there. It scared the hell out of me and I fear that it will only be a matter of time before he does some serious damage.
I have my own dog in the house as well. Cookie hates my dog. Probably because he is associated with me. He growls at him and barks at him constantly. My dog is a lot younger, and very playful, but has learned that Cookie does not want to be bothered.
I have talked with my husband about the issue on numerous occasions and he does not really say much. I know he is sick of hearing it from me especially when it is the only real thing that we argue about. It is the center of all our arguments. I know that people choose their dogs over people. I get it. I like my dog, and my parents dog way better than most people i’ve met and would rather spend the day with dogs than people most of the time. But I am so fed up with Cookie and worry that I will continue to resent my husband and vice versa if this continues. Yes, I have talked with him about a behaviorist but due to Cookie not knowing how to go out in public on a leash, we can’t bring him anywhere and my husband thinks since the dog is 10 years old, it’s not worth it at this point. The dog does not have any health issues besides arthritis.