Arguing over a dog

posted 2 weeks ago in Pets
Post # 2
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977 posts
Busy bee

Didn’t you already post this?

Y’all need a dog trainer and your Fiance needs to become a responsible dog owner. There’s literally no other solution. There’s no overnight “abracadabra” solution that you keep looking for. 

Post # 5
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977 posts
Busy bee

sharpshooter :  oh that didn’t occur to me. I thought the other thread may have gone south and she was trying to start over and take back something- my bad! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Poor Yogi/Cookie, what a heartbreaking situation for the dog. Both you and your fiancé are irresponsible dog owners, for multiple reasons not least introducing another dog to this home. You are demonstrably not a dog lover because you have shown no sympathy or understanding for this poor creature. The only solution is to hire a behaviouralist. Look for someone who is a “force free” trainer. You can even work with someone online, if you can’t find anyone locally to come to your home.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

kaitlyn8298 :  I mean I don’t think you’re at fault entirely. At least you’re coming around to the idea that the dog isn’t the asshole! Many would react as you are. No one wants to live with an animal that actively hates them and isn’t trained. But this dog doesn’t deserve being hated. This is not his fault. It’s your FI’s. Though I do think your decision to buy another dog before helping Cookie was a terrible idea.

I’m not a huge dog person so maybe other people will have helpful advice beyond a trainer but I know enough to know that you won’t make any significant break throughs without a trainer. I’m sure there are some trainers that come to your house. It will be expensive but your Fiance has this coming. He’s been beyond irresponsible and this dog deserves better. All of this could’ve been avoided with proper training earlier on.

I know one PP previously mentioned that you should be the only person to feed the dog. He will eventually come around and eat from a bowl you put. Him being hungry for a few hours will not hurt him. So that is something worth trying to get him to be a bit more passive towards you. However, at the end of the day that’s not gonna teach this dog how to walk on a leash or crating and with him being 10, he’s not gonna be easy to train without a pro. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I’m sorry but if it was me, this would be an ultimatum. He gets an in home behaviorist or I’m gone. It’s not fair to the animal (or you!!!) for that dog to live in constant fear and anxiety. You also can’t be a prisoner in your own home. He sounds like a difficult rescue that your husband doesn’t want to responsibly train, rescues aren’t for everyone. In addition to not wanting to deal with this ridiculousness (I’m very afraid of large dogs, I would not tolerate being growled and barked at. I own a HUGE dog but he is in training class and properly trained and I adore him because he is I am in control of him) it isn’t fair to the animal! OR YOUR DOG.

 

i have dealt with a lot of nonsense, husband and I each have a cat and they hate each other. We have to keep them separate and alternate between them, we also have a dog that we are still introducing to them and that’s not fun either. It’s non stop work and monitoring EVERY single night. But your husband doesn’t sound committed to trying, and that’s a fail. This dog can’t succeed in that environment.

 

that said, the dog is 10, is this worth throwing your marriage away for what is likely a senior dog (depending on breed) 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Where does your puppy sleep? Hopefully not in “your” bedroom while Cookie has been banished from his bed of the past 7 years. You don’t like Cookie, he seems to hate you but hopefully you’ll learn to coexist with him (all of him, smells and all) for the sake of your husband. 

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