Argument over church!?!?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

Ms. Darlin :  That’s different if he’s refusing to split time; some people are being harsh here. I don’t really know how church works, but could you maybe come for special events at the church only? Or find ways to volunteer there so you can still be connected to that church to appease your family? 

Post # 32
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539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

lifeisbeeutiful :  The child could choose which church they prefer. Or hire a babysitter if they decide religion or church isn’t for them. It’s not a big deal. Let’s pretend for a moment they’re an interfaith couple… Why should once have to sacrifice and go to church if they normally go to synagogue? While this isn’t quite on the same level as that, if it’s fulfilling to one person and not the other, it’s okay to choose different places. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

If I were in your shoes, I would go to each church every other Sunday. That’s fair. If neither of you are really going to budge, then honestly, do it that way. 

Personally I think this is a really dumb hill to die on, but what do I know XD

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ms. Darlin :   i think you’ve lost sight of the purpose of going to church. It’s not a social club to hang out with your friends. It’s a place to worship and commune with others in faith. When you got married, you became a family with your husband just like your parents and his parents did when they got married. Your priority is YOUR family. And when I say YOUR family, I’m referring to you and your husband. Your husband is not asking to switch religions or denominations, he’s asking to switch churches. He wants to create new relationships and grow in faith with you as his wife. It sounds like you have an unhealthy attachment to your parents church and it’s time to build something new with your husband. 

 

As for the pushback from your parents etc, i think this furthers your need to find a new church. Their concern isn’t about your faith (which you’ve admitted isn’t growing at your present church) or your marriage; their concern seems to be tradition. That’s all the more reason to find a new place of worship that you and your husband can share. 

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