(Closed) argument resulted in a bloody nose

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 136
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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chris525 :  My daughter does not hit or bite people. She just has tantrums when she doesn’t get her own way and makes an aweful scrieking noise. It’s annoying. 

So basically she acts like you except she hasn’t started hitting yet.  I think your husband is right, you’re responsible for her behavior. 

 

Post # 137
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Worker bee

I don’t know if mods or admins or anyone can see OP’s IP address, but if so someone should report her situation to local autorities.

Post # 138
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Helper bee

I wasn’t going to comment on this thread but OP I don’t understand what you’re looking for here? You’re making every excuse in the book to not leave and YOURE THE BREAD WINNER! You have the power here! 

I was with my ex husband for 10 years. The first (and only time) he got aggressive with me..I was gone.  
It is infuriating to me the excuses and the toxic environment you’re creating for these children. LEAVE!

Post # 139
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Bee Keeper

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chris525 :  On top of what everyone said. I would NOT let the in-laws in call the police on them if they keep on coming over. That is so rude and irresponsible. 

Post # 140
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

 I was able to give him the benefit of the doubt until he threatened to blackmail you. You have to leave. This whole relationship is so incredibly toxic and unacceptable and you both SEPARATELY and INDIVIDUALLY need therapy for the sake of your children.

Post # 141
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

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oatmilk :  Hopefully there will be some screenshots taken before the OP deletes everything again. I am scared for the children. Both the OP and her husband are horrifically abusive.

Post # 142
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Buzzing bee

I also want to point out what I don’t think has occurred to you.  This is just the beginning of the next phase of this toxic relationship: that has now entered mutual physical abuse.  You thought hitting him was ok because he’s so much stronger than you and your hits don’t make a difference.  But how long can you hit someone before they hit you back?  First, they hit in self defense, then they hit because it’s the new normal.  He has been primarily psychologically abusive.  You have been verbally and physically abusive.  Now he is reciprocating your physical abuse.  You’re surprised?  This will happen again.  You two need to be separated from each other for everyone’s safety.  That’s why we’re all saying the same thing.  You need to leave.  The two of you will fight again.  Your bloody nose was just an introduction.  That’s why violence can’t just be boiled down to who’s right or wrong or weak or strong in an argument.  Violence is so often unpredictable in its timing.  But trends?  Predictable.  It will be reciprocated and escalated.  Just give it time.  OP, you’re out of time.  Get out!

Post # 143
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 1985

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oatmilk :  I could not agree more!  This is a very dangerous and toxic situation! 

Post # 144
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Helper bee

Wtaf did I just read? This is a horrific situation

Post # 146
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Busy bee

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lovelyruby :  I think what she means by “blackmail” is that he will tell the police the truth about her and her own unprovoked violence if she calls them on him.

Post # 147
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You two need to separate physically and emotionally before you fuck up your kids for life. They are innocent bystanders…. do your jobs as parents and be fucking adults here. 

Post # 148
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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chris525 :  well, real talk. Maybe you will “get it” when child protective services or police comes knocking. Or, maybe what happened to my sister and someone unfortunately dies (my sister met with him once after they split and he killed her).

so you decide whats important. A child shouldnt be in the middle of seeing two grown @ss adults going at it due to their immaturity and pride to not leave. 

Post # 149
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Okay this is getting really intense so I’m going to close it for Mod review.

OP: if you need further support feel free to start another thread. I would point you in the direction of somewhere that could possibly help you but I can’t recall where you live to do that. If you need help finding more direction you can always contact a mod, please be sure to be safe and do not put yourself or your children in any harm.

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