- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Ok this is about FI’s groomsmen/boyfriend of my Maid/Matron of Honor. We will call him Tim.
Tim started a new job a few months ago, and has known about our wedding for 18 months. He just this week decided to look at his work calendar and request off for the rehearsal and wedding October 4. Rehearsal is at 5 the the night before the wedding.
Apparently he got his dates confused and there is a big work event the weekend of the wedding, so he will have to get up super early the morning after the wedding and go. Poor guy! But not a problem.
Today he went into work and requested off for the wedding and they gave it to him, no problem. He texted me that he might be late to the rehearsal because there is a work event/fundraiser that evening that he hadn’t realized was on the same night as the rehearsal because he hasn’t really looked at the calendar. I tell him to please try to make it if he can because he will be walking down the aisle.
So then he calls Fiance to talk about it, and I guess Fiance tells him the “well I don’t see why it would be a problem for you to miss it but let me just check with hollyberry4.” I get home and he asks me about it and I told him, “well I would really like him to try to be there if possible. If his work really won’t let him then we will figure something out but I would prefer to have him there.” Fiance gets really defensive of his Groomsmen and starts heatedly talking about, “why does it matter if he is there!?” And “you are really going to make him miss his work thing so he can come!?”
Apparently he hadn’t even mentioned the rehearsal to his job and didn’t want to bring it up to them because he said, “it might be awkward.”
I mean, if you ask and they are dicks and say no that’s one thing, but to not even ask?? I told Fiance if he absolutely could not come that’s one thing, but I think he should talk to his boss first. Most people know that if you are in a wedding there is a rehearsal the night before, and in my experience people are usually pretty lenient about that stuff. I don’t know why he didn’t check this before now, either? I know he is relatively new at his job so I guess that is why.
Fiance got angry and texted his friend “You have to be there.” WTF!? I asked him to please send up a f/u text with what I had actually said (about it being fine if he absolutely couldn’t come but if he could be there we would prefer it). He sent it begrudingly. He is now sulking in the next room.
So confused! What do I do? I feel like a huge jerk now! :-/