Post # 1
My fiancee and I are having a destination wedding in Europe in September, and my future Father-In-Law (who’s paying for the whole wedding) wants to have 2-3 security guards armed with guns (concealed, plainclothes in suits) for the ceremony and reception. He’s a tad paranoid and wants to have security in case of a terrorist attack.
Sadly, some of my guests will actually be reassured by that (the ones who have never traveled before and are somewhat xenophobic), but I have a feeling others will be horrified.
Has anyone seen or heard of this before? I want to try to shut it down but I may just have to go with it, since my fiancee and I aren’t paying.
Post # 2
thats insanely, irrationally, paranoid (weddings are not terrorist targets….) but if theyre in plain clothes and it makes your dad and guests feel better whats the harm.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
oh wow! That’s a bit extreme… I would try to talk him out of it, but it seems that it may be out of your control. So, I guess as long as they are plain clothed and dressed similarly to guests and are not just standing guard at the door, some people might not even notice?
Post # 4
That is insane. Literally, insane. It is not a thing, and unless your fiance is Prince Harry, no terrorist would care anyway.
Why are you marrying someone so irrational and xenophobic?
If I showed up at a wedding that had armed security because terrorism, I would probably be so horrified I would leave.
Post # 5
I’ve heard of security at weddings, but never armed security guards. But, to be honest, if he’s paying for your wedding, he gets final say. Since the security guards will be in plain clothes and their weapons concealed, I don’t see what the big deal is.
Plus, nobody will know their armed unless you tell them.
Post # 6
Yeah, no. Your Fiance needs to tell his dad to chill out. Don’t give in to fear, he’s much more likely to die in a car accident than a terrorist attack.
Post # 7
Depends where you are in Europe. You absolutely could not do this in the UK, and I suspect a lot of other countries.
I don’t even want to go into why your Father-In-Law is away with the fairies if he thinks this is a good idea.
Post # 8
How would anyone be horrified unless you were telling them? You stated the security would be in suits and have concealed weapons. Don’t tell your guest you feel would be offended. Father-In-Law is paying for the wedding, I would be just fine with the armed security. We had 1 hired at our wedding (required by venue), but 9 if you count all the military and police officers in my family who were guest of the wedding.
Post # 9
Looking at this from another perspective – if you do this, i’d have an IRONCLAD contract with the security company. What happens if the security guard injures someone? You could be held liable for any injuries they cause. Do you have any idea how these guards are chosen? Are they thoroughly background checked? Is protecting against ‘terrorism’ the only purpose they will serve? If a guest gets drunk and belligerent, will they step in? Honestly, I can envision so many ways this could wrong that it just does not seem worth the risk, nevermind how unrealistic it is to think a few armed security guards would be able to protect your guests in the event of actual terror attack.
Post # 10
Yeah I find this really, really weird. I’d probably find myself wondering what the couple was expecting or if they were going to be doing something controversial during their ceremony and that’s why they felt it was necessary. Or if there was an insane relative they were expecting to arrive. I guess what I’m saying is that if I knew that’s who they were (like if they dressed like the secret service or something obvious like that), It would serve to increase any paranoia I might have, not make me feel more comfortable.
Note – I say this as someone who is actually pro-gun in the U.S. but really hated increased police security in the schools I worked in immediately following one of the attacks b/c it made it hit home and, as mentioned above, increased paranoia rather than making me feel safer.
Post # 11
a “tad” paranoid?? More like very paranoid.
As a PP said, it really depends on where in Europe you’re having this wedding, as for many countries this would not be possible. For instance where I live, even the police don’t carry guns except for special departments or under special circumstances.
I would *never* feel comfortable with armed security guards at my wedding and being completely honest, against terrorists there is very little that they could do. Think of some of the terrorist attacks that have happened in the last few months in Europe – bombings (Paris & Brussels), truck rampage (Nice), stabbings (France & Germany)…only ONE terrorism related incident involved a firearm. Against bombings and the truck — armed guards would be useless. Stabbing — you don’t need ARMED guards, just security. So I’m not really sure what the point of armed guards would really be as in the 0.000001% chance of your wedding being targeted for a terrorist attack your armed guards would only be helpful in the 10% chance of it being a gun-related terrorist attack.
Seems like unnecessary expense, plays into the fear culture ISIS is specifically trying to create, and would make me as a bride very uncomfortable. I say this is a hill worth dying on.
Post # 12
I was surprised that this was even possible as well, but our wedding planner had a quote within hours when he asked her, and they would be armed.
My future Father-In-Law is what you might call “eccentric” – he’s extremely wealthy but is extremely impulsive. I’m hoping that he won’t follow through on the request and just forget about the whole thing.
Post # 13
What?! That’s seriously over the top! Where is the wedding destination, if you don’t mind me asking. You’re more likely to get hit by a car than be killed in a terrorist attack (at a wedding)
Post # 14
If they are in suits and it is concealed, who is going to know?!
Post # 15
It’s pretty off the wall. Weddings in the US are not targets.