Post # 1
I didnt realize that it is still being practiced today until one of my friends got engaged and mentioned that her FH didnt propose to her necessarily, but to her family instead. She flew out to her country for two weeks, met her FH through her mother, and next week they were engaged, and she’s very happy.. It makes me wonder if arranged marriages work and why they do..
Did your parents ever wish you married or would be marrying someone else other than your FH? I remember my mom use to like one of my ex’s alot and got mad at me when we broke up and said that it was probably my fault. lol i think she may have wanted him to be the one..
Post # 3
Some cultures still practise arranged marriages. If you are brought up in that culture then it works fine for you because you know whats coming and know that divorce is not really an option.. I believe they make it work for them by going into the marriage knowing that they must stay together no matter what.
Post # 4
One of my best friends is in an arranged marriage. She is muslim, however due to differant beliefs moved out of home when she was 15… she is now 21… and she was living with her aunty and she met her husband through them. (like a come round for coffee kind of setting) a week later she was engaged.. and 1 month later I flew down to see her for her initial wedding ceremony. It was one of the wierdest things that I had been too but she was comfortable with it. Shes now married and moved back to the phillipines and absolutely loving her life and fallen in love with her husband. She comes back to visit every 4 months and I have never seen her more happier.
Worked for her!
Post # 5
I think that they tend to last, for two reasons. First, if the parents are doing the choosing, they will likely choose a groom with whom the bride has a lot in common, such as religion, culture, economics, education, etc. While no one thing is critical (I married someone from a different religion and country), it is true that in general, marriages tend to be happiest if the couple has lots of things in common.
The down side is that the other reason they tend to last is that the cultures that practice them tend to have very rigid and traditional expectations on people’s roles. Thus, the wife will tend to stay even if the husband demands the final word on everything, abuses the wife, etc.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t like it, but I guess if you’re raised with that tradition you have the expectation for it. Also, I would think parents would do their best to pick someone who would be most suitable?