Post # 46
eeniebeans: I agree with you; in fact I think another reason why we first chose a diamond was because we didn’t know about the options on the internet or hadn’t ever explored them. It was just the “go to” stone for us.
littleitaly17 : thanks for pointing that out! And yes I know even straight couples don’t always go for the traditional female or male option. I’ve seen a lot of simple more gender neutral styles on both male and female!
janna121215 : I like that you pointed out how higher level degrees equals more student debt because that is exactly the way to describe the circle of friends from high school and college I have. I was fortunate enough not to have debt but my husband does with his undergraduate and graduate degrees. Luckily we are both done with school and working full time but our careers require us to continue to take classes to increase our salaries so it never ends….. As most of my acquaintances are fairly sensible finances wise I think many will not opt for giant diamonds or get into debt for the sole purpose of keeping up appearances or sentimental feelings towards the tradition unless they could afford it.
Post # 47
Two of my married best friends have diamonds on both their engagement and wedding bands. Mine, however, hsa diamonds on both, but the center stone is aquamarine…which I love! I didn’t pick it for financial reasons, I just saw the ring on Etsy and loved it!
Post # 48
I think it is multifactorial. I mean diamonds are still standard for engagement rings and families sometimes expect it. Engagement rings are not only used for as engagement rings, they are also seen as a status symbol, how much your SO loves you, etc. I am not saying it is right, and they should be seen as symbol of love only but they ARE seen as more then that.
I am the 2nd person in my social circle to get engaged and I do have a diamond ring and so does the girl who got engaged before me. Me and SO had talked about engamenet but not really rings so he picked it on his own. I had envisoned myself with a sapphire ring personally.
Reasons I would have preffered sapphire ring would be money, as well as because they are less common then diamond rings but just as strong, and I liked the color but then my engaged friend made such a big deal about how her ring is so big and cost so much that I am glad mine is also a diamond although she has made comments about how mine is so much smaller.
I grew up in a country where gold and gemstone rings are more prevelent (although I hear diamonds are becoming more common) so it was not like a huge thing I always thought about to be honest.
Post # 49
All my engaged/married friends have diamonds. I have a sapphire. It’s what I’ve always wanted and I like that it’s a little different. I think people are just becoming more aware of how many options they have and care less about what’s traditional and more about what thier personal style/taste is.
Post # 50
Omg all of this labeling!!! Lol anyways I know lots of people of different ages that do have diamonds and would have not considered any other alternative; most of them are well placed economically and buy them straight out, others save their money and others are trying to live above their means. I also know others who would love to own a diamond but can’t afford it and are very happy with their CZ. I personally have diamonds and I love them. I don’t see anything wrong with sapphires and moissanites. I actually have a sapphire set and I’m currently trying to figure out this moissanite thing. However I would not try to pass either one for a diamond. They are what they are and unique in their own essence. whenever I get complements on my sapphire I have no shame on saying what it’s. And will do the same once I get my moissanite. However, whenever I get complements on my diamonds I say it’s a moissanite…. I’m not trying to get robbed you know. 😉 lol.
Post # 51
I’m a millenial and I opted for a Citrine center stone with white sapphire halo/band stones (ignore the blue ring, it was there for size reference):
I’m buying my wedding band soon, and I decided to just get a whole new (second) engagement ring too, to match! Lol. It’s very cheap, only a few hundred from a seller on Etsy. Simulant (fake) diamonds and rose-gold:
Honestly though, I think I’m not the norm. All my friends, sister-in-laws, other women my age I know opted for diamonds. My partner thought I was stark raving mad when I said I didn’t want an expensive engagement ring. I love swapping jewelry so didn’t want an expensive piece that I would feel obligated to wear every single day. I switch it up between fairly cheap rings right now 😛
Post # 52
My personal friends are really into alternative stones and hate the whole diamond culture. However, my coworkers the same age as myself love diamonds. I think it really depends on the person. I wouldn’t be surprised if millenials as a whole are slowly shunning diamonds more and more.