(Closed) Article about ridonkulous new "trend"!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, I’ve not gotten one or know of anyone in real life who has done them.  Never would I ever do such a thing!  And no friend of mine would either.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@VioletSky:  Wow I haven’t heard of that before….Yikes! Not a fan of it at all….

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have never heard of it but couldn’t imagine sending that out or receiving one!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Wow… I hope not.

How tacky.

Post # 7
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10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Ugh I’ve heard of this before – it’s so terrible!!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My wedding venue posted this on their facebook today. Ive never heard of it before – and I thought we discussed all bridal trends on the bee! If we didnt know about it, who are the brides doing it?!

Post # 9
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2361 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve heard of this and it’s absolutely ridiculous

Post # 10
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow.So.Rude…

Post # 12
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1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

a couple of people have posted about doing this and were read the riot act. so gross!

Post # 14
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2928 posts
Sugar bee

I sent all my friends a nice e-mail letting them know that we are having a family only wedding when we first got engaged. My original plan was to elope anyway and they all knew that. I pretty much let them know that if we had the funds and actually wanted to plan a wedding, we would have invited them. I never sent out STD or gave verbal invitations as it is.

I am sorry if you think that’s tacky, but some of us don’t have the money or the will power to plan a gigantic wedding with over 100 guest. With just family and very good friends, we were already at 100 guest who would more than likely come – add extended family and close-ish friends and we were up to 150. I assume they understood but I know that they understand that I am being forced to have this wedding anyway.

Post # 15
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

WTF.

While I do think it’s rude to ask if you are invited to someone’s wedding (did happen to me a few times), I think those questions should be met with a No, I’m sorry if you know they won’t be.  I had no issue doing this. I didn’t want to deal with awkward situations later by saying I’m not sure yet or maybe.

I see no reason to tell people they aren’t invited since they may or may not expect an invitation. My lack of an invitation to them, is the “you’re not invited” alert…isn’t it?!  If the subject comes up in conversation with friends, you can say oh yeah we’re having a small family-only wedding but no need to tell it to people who haven’t even asked!  I just think it’s presumptous to assume someone would be upset about not being invited to your super awesomely amazing wedding.

I agree that it’s super narcissistic to send your friends a you’re not invited alert, as if they’re all sitting around concerned about where their invitation is!   

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