Article telling Millennials who can't afford kids to "just make it work"…

posted 1 year ago in No Kids
Post # 16
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Worker bee

I couldn’t finish reading the entire article. What a steaming load of horse shit. 

Post # 17
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Helper bee

Lol what kind of bullcrap is this.

I don’t care if kiddo can’t go to Disneyland.. I care if *I* can’t enjoy *my* life.

I’m not having a second child precisely because we can’t afford one without a huge overhaul of our expenditures. 

A big fuck you to the lady who wrote this. Having kids is not some social obligation we need to do at all costs. It’s a life choice some people make cus we think itll make our lives better in some way. Sorry not sorry but given our financial situation relative to the local economy.. money will make me happier than a second child.

Also as some bees pointed out this woman clearly really thinks parents ought to sacrifice everything for their kids.  The poor parents of millennials are still not off the hook?! (Never! Sacrifice everything for children, always! 🙄🙄🙄)

 

Eta:  

lol reading my post back I see it kind of sounds I don’t care about my kids happiness. I do. Just not about the happiness of hypothetical children I’ve decided not to have.

Post # 18
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Worker bee

“A big fuck you to the lady who wrote this. Having kids is not some social obligation we need to do at all costs. It’s a life choice some people make cus we think itll make our lives better in some way.”

 

Thank you @anondotcom

 

Could I afford to have a kid? Probably. Should I have one just cause I can afford one? Fuck no. My choice not to have kids goes well beyond money. This article made my brain hurt due to the shear stupidity. I cannot eye roll hard enough.

 

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I have been a single mom since I was 24. I never made much money, hardly ever received child support and yet somehow I managed to afford 2 kids.

i never wasted money on rent. I bought my first starter  house at 20. I never wasted money on cigarettes and expensive clothes. I always drive a nice dependable car that does not nickel and dime me in maintenance.

i always saved for retirement, kept a rainy day fund and kept debt at a minimum. We live in one of the most expensive areas in the US. We go on a nice trip every year. This year the Caribbean. Next year Cuba. My kids have been to Disney World several times.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

penny1403 :  Sorry to derail, but may I ask how you could afford a house at 20 in one of the most expensive places in the US while not making very much money?

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

youngbrokebride :  “If everyone is happy with it and it’s for a fixed term, well why not?”

Because the unstated premise upon which this article is based is that having children is the most valuable activity, and all other activities SHOULD take a backseat if people CAN have children. And that’s effed up. 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper

Such financially irresponsible BS.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

penny1403 :  Man, it is just CONSTANT with you and your money, huh? And your friends who own several luxury cars each! Can we hear more about that again too? 

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Yeah, this article has no balance to it.  I agree with some aspects to it, like if people are planning on having children there are situations where finances don’t have to be perfect as that’s likely not going to be achieved depening on what someone views as that standard.  There are issues with waiting.

There certainly should be a level of stability before deciding to have kids though!

And obviously even being in a ‘perfect’ financial situation doesn’t equate to should having children!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

penny1403 :  I don’t quite understand your point. Are you saying that being a single mum at 24 with no child support is an enviable position? I doubt people are putting off having kids because they are wasting money on cigarettes. 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

sboom :  I apologise, I didn’t realise that you’d put this in the “no kids” section.  

DeniseSecunda :  I completely disagree with how you’ve read into the article.  It is talking about people who have responded to a survey saying they are delaying children “because they can’t afford a family”. That implies that for these couples, they want to have children and only aren’t because of their financial situation.  It specifically says here is what “would be parents” can do, not “hey all millenials, have babies now!”  As someone who does want a child for yeras, but has delayed due to finances, this article speaks to me.  If you don’t want to use your finances on a kid that’s totally cool and your choice, and I don’t think this article is saying otherwise.  

Post # 29
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Busy bee

youngbrokebride :  I might get some flack for saying this but if you really can’t afford kids, maybe you shouldn’t be having them whether you want them or not. There are people in the US that are totally working the system into paying for EVERYTHING for them because they continue to have children that they CAN’T afford.

Why should I have to pay for someone else’s financial irresponsibility? Perhaps if you can’t afford them, you should take yourself down to the health department and get you some FREE birth control. 

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

thebeekeeper :  

My Brother-In-Law and SIL added two kids to the family when they were already on government assistance. I hear you.

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