Post # 1
So there’s a post about how much you’re expecting your BMs to have to contribute to your wedding and I figured it would be good to just have people that have been BMs break down their costs.
I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding right now (wedding is the end of August) and I never really sat down to figure out all of my costs. So here’s what I THINK I’m at:
Engagement Party – $30ish (thrown by 3 of the BMs)
Dress – $150 (had to get the same dress as everyone else, at least it was on sale)
Shoes – 0 (wearing ones I already own)
Makeup – 0 (bride is paying for this)
Hair – $80 (this is optional but I suck at updos so I want to get it done professionally)
Bridal Shower – $120 (thrown by 4 of the BMs, this includes a shower gift from all of us)
Bachelorette Party – $335 so far (it’s next weekend and we’re going to Nashville for it, I only know the price of the hotel and plane so far, I’m sure this’ll end up being easily over $500)
Mani-Pedi – $50 (this is also optional but I’ll be doing it)
Jewlery – 0 (we can wear whatever we want)
Gift – $250 (that’s my standard gift for friends’ weddings)
And that’s it I think…though I’m sure I’m probably forgetting something! But all in all I’ll probably be a bit over $1,000.
What about the rest of you? What have you/did you spend as a BM?
Post # 2
Ha! Already realized I forgot something!
Hotel – $270 (staying 2 nights)
So I guess I’m going to be closer to $1,500.
Post # 3
Dress – $140
Shoes –$70 (bought two pairs and was going to take one back, but another Bridesmaid or Best Man ended up having to wear my backup pair.
Bridal Shower – $200
Bachelorette Party – $300 (flight), $150 (hotel), $75 (show), $100 (food), $100 (alcohol), $30 (goodies)
Mani-Pedi – $45
Gift – $90
Hotel – $110
Spa/weekend snacks – $50
Estimating about $1460 for a wedding I was in last month.
Post # 4
For the next wedding in which I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man:
Alterations: TBD- $50?
Flight to her hometown: $350
Hotel for two nights: $250
I’m skipping the engagement party/shower/bachelorette since I have the good excuse of living a 4-hour flight away, which saves me a lot of $.
Post # 5
I didn’t buy them any gift because I literally planned their entire wedding. That was my gift to them.
Post # 6
Dress & Shoes – Free. It was part of what the MOB decided to pay for. If I had bought it, I’m sure it was somewhere between 100-200 dollars. Did my own hair and makeup, and didn’t wear jewelry.
Bridal Shower – $300, for some food, decorations and a present. I hosted at my home, and others helped by bringing food.
Bachelorette Party – $150 (hotel room for me + bride), $50 (dinner), $80 (cover charge/drinks), $30 (cab), $50 (breakfast) = $360
Wedding Present – $80
Total of about $750.
Only experience as a bridesmaid, and since I was in college with no job, I’m pretty glad nothing was made to be too expensive.
Post # 7
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in two weddings last year. For me it was:
Shoes: N/A (we were allowed to use our own shoes for first wedding; we were gifted shoes for second wedding)
Hair/Makeup: First wedding paid for it. Second wedding I only had to get my hair done, which cost ~$30.
Hotel: I used points that I’ve earned from business trips
Flight: N/A – both were driving distance
I missed the bachelorette weekend for the second wedding because the first wedding was that same weekend. My friend completely understood (she had 12 BMs, so it’s not like she was left hanging). The first wedding didn’t have a bachelorette party or bridal shower; we did do a mani but the bride’s Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) paid for everyone.
I guess the costs weren’t that bad? Certainly nothing like the $3K posted in recent threads!
Post # 8
Bachelorette party: $100 I think
Mani pedi: $60
jewelry: $0, it was a bridesmaid gift. I’ve worn it since too but unfortunately I’m allergic to the bracelet
I also made the cake but that wasn’t a bridesmaid duty. It was my Future Sister-In-Law wedding and she wanted me to so I did
Post # 9
jewlery – 2o
bridal shower gift – 50
wedding gift – 100
Bachelorette party -150
room for the weekend- 213 ( we rented a house as a group and split the cost)
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2019 - Undecided
I’ll break down my one that is coming up…
Dress = $0 MOB bought them
Shoes = Ones I already own
Hair / Makeup = FREE as I’m doing it myself
Hotel = $300 for two nights for the rehearsal
Gift = $100 and I literally bought EVERYTHING on their registry
Travel = $100 ( 5 hour drive )
TOTAL = $500
Post # 11
Engagement Party – 0 (unless you can’t gas expenses to drive across the state–I’m not counting this) *ETA* Bride insisted on NO GIFTS.
Dress – $190 ($150 for the dress plus $40 for alterations)
Shoes – $50 (needed silver shoes, I didn’t own any–could have easily been free)
Makeup – 0 (we did our own)
Hair – 0 (bride paid for this)
Bridal Shower – $90 (gift only–MOH threw this herself)
Bachelorette Party – $400 (2 nights in a party town. I feel like I got away with a bargain. this was optional. Not all the BMs went.)
Mani-Pedi – $40 (this was optional)
Jewlery – 0 (bride gifted us earrings, the rest was whatever we wanted)
Gift – $100
Hotel – $450 (this was a killer on my budget. we didn’t have to stay in this particular hotel though, so I can’t blame her. so glad I did anyway. It was worth it)
$1320. Honestly, that’s less than I thought, although I didn’t include driving expenses, which probably adds another $100-$200 since I had to travel for everything. I never complained though. The 2 biggest expenses could have easily been lowered significantly or even eliminated if I wanted. My bride was so considerate
ETA: oops! I’m a jerk. MOB ended up paying for our nails as a surprise. I mentally factored the money for nails in my head because I wanted to go with her, but it ended up being free! so my total was actually $1280
Post # 12
Maid/Matron of Honor recently.. Here’s my costs:
Dress: Free! Bride paid for it!
Shoes: $60 but its something I can always wear so no problem there.
Makeup & Hair: Free! Another Bridesmaid or Best Man did it for me 🙂
Necklace: Free! It was her gift to us although I did buy one for $10 as I wasn’t sure if she was giving us one
Nails: did it myself! I’m pretty sure there’s no close ups of my hands so didn’t need anything fancy
Bridal Shower: $95. Our bridal party did great with the budget!
Bachelorette: $1,000. We did a 4day trip to Costa Rica so it was kind of a vacation for all of us that we all really wanted! Out of the $1000, I’m guessing about $200 was towards the bride’s share (food, activities, drinks). We were lucky that her sister covered her flight & hotel. Plus we told her from the start we wouldn’t be able to cover all her share if she really wanted to go there, which she didn’t mind at all.
Post # 13
Bachelorette party- $120
Travel- probably will end up being close to $100 with gas and tolls
Post # 14
You gals are so generous, lol. I spent $350 for a dress/shoes to be in my sister’s wedding and they were something I’d never wear again. I thought that was outrageous.
I asked each of my gals to buy a $75 dress and wear their own shoes. No showers or parties, no hotel room, and I am giving them the option of paying a professional to do hair/makeup if they want to. I guess they’re getting off light.
Post # 15
So far I’ve spent:
$225 on Dress, including Alterations.
Mani/Pedi: $50 (optional)
Bachelorette (including two night stay): $250
Hair & Makeup paid for by bride (I think!)
So… I estimate right now $595. The dress we picked out is amazing, and I could wear it again no problems (if only I had something nice to wear it to!). And shoes, well of course I can wear my shoes again!