(Closed) As a bridesmaid, how much should I spend on wedding gift

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Autumnsnow:  I think that you should spend what you can afford and would normally spend. I wouldn’t worry about it too much! 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Autumnsnow:  I wouldnt buy a gift after spending that amount if you normally only give $50 anyway. We generally give $100-250 in my social circle and I am letting my bridesmaids know now that I want absolutely no gift from them bc they are already incurring expenses.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve been a bridesmaid like 7 times…..I think I recall the bride telling us that we did NOT need to give a gift since we were spending so much money on our dresses, shoes, etc. and bachelorette party that a gift was not needed and definitely not expected.

 

Wow….$1000 to be a bridesmaid?  Holy smokes!

 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I’d say something small in the $30-40 range. But I still think you need to get her something unless she says otherwise.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Spend what you would normally spend.  Maybe a bit more if you’re uncomfortable.  Don’t be excessive – spend what is normal to you and your region.  And spend what you can afford! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As a bridesmaid even with a $200 shower contribution I always spend around $100 on the shower gift more for my sisters. Plus cash at the wedding $125-$300 depends on the relationship. Being a bm is a huge financial commitment I’m sure the bride won’t be upset if you don’t spend a fortune. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t have agreed to be in a wedding party if I wasn’t close friends with the bride (or groom), so honestly I have no advice other then just spend what you would normally spend if you were just a regular gUest

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

$50 is fine if that is the norm!

PS – I’ve been in many weddings and would say that the $1,000 is VERY accurate!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow, that’s a lot!! Honestly, even if my bridesmaids only paid $200 (what I’m hoping they will pay), I would only expect a card. I’m going to try to tell them that, though I’m sure they’ll still get gifts. If it were me, I would probably spend about $50 and write a long message in the card!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My moh’s have probably spent about 600 total and I don’t expect anything from them.. If they want to get me a nice card I’d be happy

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If $50 is what you would spend, spend that. And it’s not an “honour” to be in someone’s wedding. I think we can all admit it’s a huge favour and a colossal pain in the ass (while also sometimes being really fun).

–Scrooge McBride

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Good grief, I feel bad about asking my girls to spend $100, I couldnt imagine just expecting someone to spend $1000 on MY wedding.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

First of all, I think 1,000 is insane to ask someone to spend to be in your wedding (unless your entire social circle is loaded). My bridesmaids have spent between 140 and 150 on attire (the dresses were between 80 and 120 at David’s Bridal– different styles– the shoes were  20 and the girl whose dress was 80 had to have alterations done which were 50). I am purcashing the jewelry as a part of the their gift. They all live within a 2 hour drive so the max they will spend on gas is $50. I am paying for the hotel they stay in the night of the rehearsal dinner and they are all driving home after the wedding (since Easter is the next day, although I offered to pay for another night). The did spend around 30 on lingerie party gifts and for dinner/drinks at my bachelorette party (probably spent a total of about 40 dollars each on food/drinks). So THE MOST they have spent is $270. The lingerie party was a TOTAL suprise and I certianly did not expect them to pay for all my food/drinks but they would not let me pay.. I was hoping they’d only spend the 200 on attire and gas. I have told them that I DO NOT want them to purchase us a wedding gift, that they have done enough already. Two of my girls are my best friends and I am sure they will anyways.. and the other is my cousin who is still in college (her mom technically paid for all her bridesmaids stuff anyways) and I am sure a gift will come from her entire family but I really, really hope they listen and do not get me anything. What they have done is more than enough. Not to mention all the time they have spent helping me and emotional supprt (haha). 

However, unless the bride says “no gift expected” I would probably get something.. Don’t feel obligated to spend a fortune. If 50 is normal for you, then just do 50. If this was your best friend, I might suggest a little more but not when you aren’t even that close. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow $1,000 is a lot of money for a bridesmaid! I took my girls to the fashion district in downtown L.A for their bridesmaid dresses and although it was a bit sketchy we got their dresses for $95 when originally they are $450. They are gorgeous! They are wearing flats so shoes won’t be expensive and I will be paying for their hair and make up. I have three bridesmaids and I told them they did not have to get me a gift since they are buying the dress (which I offered to pay for) but they outright refused. We are very close so they want to get me a gift but I would not be offended if they didn’t. If you can’t afford it don’t get one. I am sure she will understand. Besides, don’t you have a year to get a gift? You can always give one later when money is not so tight.

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