Post # 1
My Darling Husband and I will be photographing a friends wedding coming up soon. Darling Husband is the real photographer and I’m just the back up. We’re plenty qualified and honored to shoot their wedding but… do we need to give them a gift?
They attended ours recently and gave us something. We also had a different friend shoot ours and they did not give us anything.
It’s confusing because the bride & groom PAY the photographer, should you give some of that back in form of a gift?
Post # 3
are they paying you full price for your work? if yes, then give them a gift. if not, then consider your services a gift.
Post # 4
How did the arrangement come up? Did they ask you to shoot it? Did you offer?
Personally – I think if they asked you to do it for them – that’s your gift. If you offered – I’d consider it a favor for a friend and would still give them a gift.
Post # 5
if they’re paying you, i’d give a gift. we paid my friend to do our hair and makeup, and she still gave us a gift. we didn’t pay our other friend, but gave him a nice present, to play the keyboard for our ceremony, and he also gave us a gift even though we told him it wasn’t necessary.
Post # 6
If you are being hired as a professional then you’re basically not invited so I’d say no gift necessary. But you could get them one if you’re feeling nice. Maybe offer one or more free prints of their choice? If you are asked / you offered then that’s your gift to them.
Post # 7
My mother used to do a lot of wedding cakes. That was her gift. However, if they are paying you then I would give something.
Post # 8
such a interesting situation.
They asked us – thus them hiring us. Yes they will be paying the full amount we charge.
I think (maybe) we’d be invited to the wedding if we weren’t taking the photos… this is a tricky one. I have a feeling it’s a small wedding with mostly family.
hmm… they’re also being the worst clients!! aka not getting back to us. haven’t signed a contract, sent us any details, sent a deposit or anything. Just because we’re friends doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take us as a vendor seriously! We can’t just get a memo the day before and expect to take amazing photos with no information!! jeez.
Post # 9
Based on that, if you’re not “SURE” you would be a guest, I say no gift… or after the wedding present them with a free 16×20 or something.