(Closed) As a guest at a wedding would you find this tacky?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is having signature drinks that guests have to pay for tacky?

    Yes - super tacky! Don't do it!

    No - it is fun to have options, I would pay for it!

    No - but I wouldn't pay for it.

  • Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    greyeyedbride:  Do you get a kick back from the sale of your signature drink? Why would you promote and highlight a drink that guests have to pay for?

    “Oh, you would like a complimentary beer? Have you considered trying the $8 signature drink designed by the bride and groom instead?”

    Don’t do it, brah.

    Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m hesitant to say tacky but.. You don’t even have enough beer and wine. Especially for a NYE event.

    If you’re going to be making people pay for their own drinks, I certainly wouldn’t be dictating what that drink is. A signature drink kinda loses all appeal when you’re offering it at a cost to your guests.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee

    And yeah, that does not sound like near enough booze for 200 guests.  A bottle of wine could get you maybe 4-5 glasses.  So based off of 5 glasses per 30 bottles of wine, that is enough for 150 people to get ONE glass of wine.  Yes not eveyone will drink wine, but lets say for the sake of ease that 100 of your guests drink wine.  They all decide to have 2 glasses of wine (which is very likely).  Well 50 people are going to be shit out of luck because there is not enough for that.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Agree with so much of what PPs have said…

    1) not enough alcohol for that many people – especially on NYE

    2) promoting a cash bar sig drink is almost promoting that you wanted better drink options, but you can’t foot the bill for it

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee

    From the northeast, so cash bars are normal here.

    That being said, I DO think specifying a signature drink and then having guests pay for it is a tad tacky. It’s kind of dangling the carrot and then saying BUT…it’s on you.

    We have an open bar as far as beer and wine are concerned in addition to a champagne toast. BUT, we are doing a cash bar for hard liquor (due to the propensity of many of his friends to “over-imbibe” the hard stuff). However, we are offering our signature cocktail on the house for cocktail hour only. We felt that was a compromise. One hour, $8/beverage. How bad could it be? 😉 Stay tuned…

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve only been to one cash bar wedding in my life because the bride and groom are quite poor. A 200 person wedding but not enough alcohol isn’t a great idea – and I don’t even drink. It’s silly, and a bit presumptuous to have signature cocktails that people have to pay for. In my opinion…

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee

    3 keg= 180 beers, 30 wine= 120 glasses of wine. 300 drinks for 200 people. I know some people wont drink, and there’s probably under age people. But it’s NYE, I’d want more than 1.5 drink.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t pay for a signature drink if wine was already provided (though I think 30 bottles is a bit short for 200 people. 1 bottle = 5 servings = 150 guests, 1 serving each. Are the 50 others underage?). 

    Cash-bars are the norm where I live, they’re okay as long as you provide your guests with enough beverage for the entire dinner. If it’s a banquet, it can take a few hours. You can safely assume most people will want to drink more than 1 glass of wine or beer throughout the evening.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee

    I think it would be confusing because I would assume the signature drink would be free. 

    Post # 25
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    Blushing bee

    cash bars are not a big deal where i’m at… ive been to several with cash bars and only a couple with open bars, and the open bar was only house wines and domestic beer.

    do what you want to do… its your wedding. if they don’t want to pay for it, they can have beer or wine… but i agree with pp- that doesn’t seem like enough alcohol for 200 guests.

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee

    Skip the signature drink, nobody cares and its not worth it.  Do the beer & wine, with the cash bar.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee

    Yes. I would be confused. An open bar is one thing, but a “signature” drink implies (to me anyway) that it’s covered by the hosts who chose it. I would not do this.

    In your position, I would skip the cash bar and provide only beer and wine – or perhaps one hour of covered bar, if you can swing that. Echoing what another PP said that I don’t think you have enough beer or wine, at all.

    Post # 28
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    Worker bee

    Making your guests pay for any drinks is always tacky, but even more so on NYE.

     

    You are asking people to give up their holiday, to possibly travel and stay in a hotel on one of the most expensive days of the year, and to give you a gift.

     

    I think a NYE wedding really needs to step it up.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee

    Uh, you should probably at least triple the amount of wine and beer you’re serving (assuming the kegs are not half-barrel). Thirty bottles of wine won’t see your guests through the first hour of your reception…how did you calculate what you need?

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee

    It is so sad to hear of so many people saying that cash bars are the norm where they live.  Poor and rude hosting is a hot button issue for me.

    I mean if you were to invite someone to your home for dinner would you then offer them wine and beer for free but if they want a rum and coke you are going to charge them $5?  No.  Same rules should be followed at your wedding.  If you can’t afford something then you don’t have it for sale to your guests.  It is as simple as that.  It would be like offering up lobster tail for an additional $10.  Not cool.

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