Post # 1
i saw this discussion on another wedding website and was curious what the hive thought. I would never assume such a thing and only ever consider taking a centerpiece if there was a giveaway game or it was announced in some form that we could.
but i was reading lots of people say that its expected to give away centerpieces and people will take them no matter what!
what do you think?
Post # 3
@dynamic_duo:some cultures have a “steal the centerpiece” thing that is a family type tradition. Mine does not. I believe American culture does not.
Post # 4
@dynamic_duo: A lot of people took them at my wedding (I think our parents and DH was encouraging people) and a lot of people took them at my friend’s wedding last Saturday. I did not take anything even after being encouraged by my friend since I am known to kill flowers with a quickness 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve only been to one wedding where you could take home the centerpieces. They were giant candles and they put a coloured dot on the bottom of the candle and a matching one on the back of one person’s placecard per table. At the end of the night, the matching dot got to take the GIANT candle home. Aside from that, it really hadn’t occured to me.
Post # 6
oh, wow, I hope no one does! Some of my centerpieces are being provided by the reception hall! 😮
Post # 7
I think some cultures do this. I think I read about it happening in parts of Mexico, I could be wrong. Here in the Midwest though I’ve never heard of it happening.
Post # 8
Nope, never! Unless they told me I could. I know that some brides rent vases so I wouldn’t want take something that wasn’t theirs in the first place. Also, I know some brides, like myself, who tried to sell their centerpieces, like vases, after the wedding.
Post # 9
The thought has never crossed my mind, but at our wedding over the weekend, some guests were trying (and succeeding) in taking almost anything not nailed down.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t, unless it was offered.
I totally forgot to tell people to take home our floral centerpieces – so I had a lot that got left behind til almost the end that I wish I designated to specific people. Instead I was telling people to take them home – and they seemed surprised they could!
Post # 11
I’ve never wanted to nor would I. And I really hope my guests don’t think they can….. I’m selling them to try and recoup some costs!
I have heard of this though, and have seen it done. Just not something I’d ever think to do.
Post # 12
@nqz100: Seriously? That is kind of….
Post # 13
I attend many many banquets for work and it is common to take the FLOWER arrangements in the center piece (but leave the vessel). I (if i’m lucky and my sister hasn’t beat me to it) do this at weddings too.
Post # 14
Personally no I don’t think of this as ok unless it is announced that its is ok. But at my reception I had a couple people take the table numders. They were just gold frames with numbers in them, not sure why someone would one one.
Post # 15
No, I don’t assume. But I have seen people do this.
Post # 16
see, the way most of you are replying is what i think/feel too!!!
But here are some of the replies i was seeing on BDW:
I think there’s a bit of an unspoken expectation that guests get to bring home the center pieces. I have never been to a wedding or similar event where that did not happen.
All the weddings I have been to it just is normal for guests to take centerpeices with them following the reception.
It’s a given that centrepieces go home with guests, after all, what are you going to do with multiples of the same arrangement? If you have very special pieces, then it’s probably best to keep them on your head table where your girls can make sure they’re gathered up at the end of the night, and leave your not so special pieces on the guest tables.
the bride who started the thread was concerned about it because she wanted to use sentimental items on her tables and was worried about guests taking them. The advice she is being is not to use those items or keep them on the head table only!